Your girlfriend dumped you . She blindsided you and you never saw it coming. This was the woman that you were so sure was so much in love with you that you could not run her away. But she just walked in and said she wanted some time to herself and she was gone. When you think you are sure of a woman, that is when you had better watch out. They should have been made with a warning sign so you could tell when they were ready to split. The problem is, you never have a warning. You can give them all the care and attention in the world and it does not seem to make any difference. They are here one minute and gone the next.

Speaking of care and attention, this is something you had better not be giving her at present. When your girlfriend dumps you and says she wants some time to herself, you better give it to her. Right now she is a living time bomb and there is no way to defuse her except to let her fuse die out. That means keep off the grass. Do not disturb and any other do not warning you can think of. Leave her completely alone for several weeks. No contact at all. This means do not be trying to bribe her with flowers, gifts, and cards. Do not be calling, emailing or sending text messages. If you do, you are just asking for more grief.

When your girlfriend dumps you, the best thing you can do is see things from her side of the fence. If she was the one that had hurt you or made you angry about something, you would want time to cool off and think about whether you wanted to continue the relationship or not. You know that as time passes, anger always fades and hurt feelings heal. I do not know what you did to set her off and you might not know either, but whatever it was, you cannot get your ex girlfriend back by just showing her you love her. In fact, any attempt to tell her you love her will no doubt set her off again.

The thing you need to do is to become part of her life again. Not as her boyfriend right now, but as her friend. You may think this sounds wimpish, but you have to do whatever it takes to be able to communicate with her again. Once the communication starts, you are on your way to getting your ex back. If you have left her alone for at least three weeks, to get things started send her an email and tell her you are thinking of her and hope things are going well for her. This can make her realize that she misses you and still loves you.

If she does not call you in a week or so, you could call her and apologize for causing her pain and that you are there for her whenever she needs you. Do not mention love or beg her forgiveness. Just say you are sorry and leave it there.