If you're at the point where everything you say seems to hit a tender spot; or you feel like you're misunderstood; or you think that she's always overreacting; or every discussion you have boils up into a near argument; it's time to fortify yourself with these proven ways on how to keep your girlfriend from leaving and find the happiness in your relationship once again.

For most troubled relationships, the culprit is usually a breakdown in communication. There is a right way to vent. There are better ways to argue and there are highly effective ways to apologize. When approached with deftness and sincerity, there's opportunity for each of you to learn and for the relationship to grow.

If, however, your communication in each of these areas draws purely on raw emotion, there's little possibility that the issue will be resolved. When communication in each of these areas is done with deliberate attention to learning and growing, you both come out winners.

Carefully study these proven ways on how to keep your girlfriend from leaving:

Stop pointing fingers. Every time the word "you", or "you never" is used, alarms go off, barriers are thrown up, and the rational part of the brain shuts down. Stop using the blame format, even if you are clearly not at fault. Instead, start out with, "I'm trying to understand.." or "I can't help but feel..." You'll keep her off the defensive and it will allow you to still vent your feelings.

Seek first to understand, then to be understood.This essential communication technique will help you win in any relationship. Sure you feel misunderstood, all men do. If you take the few extra moments to, first, understand your girlfriend - where she's coming from, what's really going on - and let her know that you understand, she'll be able to more clearly understand your position. In many cases, you can both disagree, and, having that understanding of each other allows you to agree to disagree.

Listen without talking. The biggest mistake guys make is that they feel they have to fix everything, or, offer some sort of advice. Big tip here: women hate that. Most of the time, when we want to vent about something, we simply want to vent. And, all we really want is for someone to hear it and, for the most part, just be there. Be there to listen, not to try to fix things. She'll know that you really care when you ask her "what's wrong" and when she tells you, "nothing", you just stay there with her and wait for her to talk.

Learn to apologize. Don't be afraid to apologize even when you don't think you're in the wrong. Use it as a weapon when you can. Apologies don't always mean that you're in the wrong. It just means that you place more value on the relationship than you do your own ego.

Bonus Tip:If you really want to make a difference in your relationship, learn to apologize with true meaning. "I'm really sorry" is only a beginning. Follow that up with a promise that you'll work on the issue so it doesn't happen again (but you better do your best to live up to the promise), and then, offer some sort of restitution - a way to make it all better right then and there. Rinse and repeat.

Get back in touch. When any of these tips are applied, the soft touch of your hand, at the appropriate time, on her shoulder or face will speak volumes of your love and sincerity. Never apologize without an embrace. Always hold her hand or arm when you seek to understand, and while you're listening (and not talking) put your arm around her shoulder and squeeze.

Effective verbal and physical communciation doesn't come naturally for most people, and the sad truth is that, without it, most relationships will fail. There's little chance that you'll keep your girlfriend from leaving if you don't at least try to follow these proven ways. Write them down. Study and practice them. You'll have her eating out of your hand in no time.

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