After a breakup it does you no good to sit and cry and say I want my ex boyfriend back quick because he probably will not be coming back quick if at all. I know this is hard to hear, but it is the facts. That is the way you have to think right now because wishing for your ex back will not make it happen. This does not mean that you should give up and just let him go, but it does mean that you need to make him think you have given up and moved on with your life without him. This means you must promise yourself right now that you will stop calling, emailing and texting your ex boyfriend. You must forget that he exists. This is the only way to get your ex back .

You will not lose him if you give him some space. It is the other way around, you will lose him if you do not give him space. You have to accept the breakup and put it behind you. There is no way that you can force your ex to love you or want to be with you. If you try to throw yourself at him, he will run in the other direction and avoid you like the plague.

If you show your ex that you are strong enough to handle the breakup like a mature person, he will gain respect for you and begin to wonder if he made the right decision by breaking up with you. If you want your ex boyfriend quick, you have to put doubt in his mind. When he broke up with you, he was all set to begin getting swamped by phone calls, emails and text messages. When this doesn't happen, this will cause him to doubt how much you care for him. When he sees or hears of how well you are handling things, this will make him wonder if it wasn't you who really wanted the breakup instead of him.

Now the shoe is on the other foot, suddenly he feels as if he was the one that was dumped. Thinking that he might have been the one rejected along with how well you seem to be getting on with your life makes you more desirable to him than ever before. This is because you have become unavailable to him. When you were waiting for his phone calls and he knew he could be with you anytime he wanted, you were not nearly as desirable. Now you have become a challenge and he wants you back quick. This is what you want, but don't be too available too soon or he might lose his desire for you again.