Hey girl, are you looking for some help to get your man back? Let's get to the 411 and figure out what you need to be doing to unlock the secrets to getting him back in your life.

Secret #1 to get your man back

First, you need to be ready for him to come back into your life. You don't want things to be the same way they were when you broke up. You need to figure out what caused him to act irrational and immature and go his separate ways. Was it because he was afraid of getting to close to you? Was he thinking that he wasn't good enough for you? Could it be that he wasn't able to give you the finer things of life? Was it the way you were treating him?

It is critical that you figure out the real reason why he left so that when he returns you can move your relationship forward after dealing with the stuff that led to your man backing out of the relationship.

Secret #2 to get your man back

The next secret to get your man back is not to try so hard. I know it hurts to have him out of your life but if you smother him it will make it more difficult to win him back again. You shouldn't try to convince him how much he needs you or how much you love him. We all know he made a mistake but until he realizes it, you will lower your chances of getting him back by constantly calling, emailing or tweeting about him. Don't post on Facebook how much you miss him.

The key is to let him see that you are capable of living life to the max even without him being a part of it. I know you might be worried that he might feel less guilty about the breakup if you appear to be happy. I have one thought about your fear and it's, don't be afraid of what you can't control. I hate to tell you this but there is a possibility that you will never reunite with your man. Sure, I think you have a good shot at getting him back. However, it might not work out or you could decide at some point that you are ready to move on.

Secret #3 to get your man back

The final secret to get your man back in your life is make sure you are prepared to give him what he needs and not what he wants. What he needs is someone who compliments his strengths and weaknesses. He may want a buddy or a second mom but what he really needs is you to help complete him. This is not something that you say but rather something you do or how you treat him.

I'm not talking about doing whatever he says or wants you to do. You are not seeking to be his puppet but his soul mate and companion. If he wants to be a master let him get a dog.

You need to believe in your heart and mind that you two belong together. If you have doubts about your compatibility then you may need to take a little more time to think through your relationship before you decide to get your man back.

Are you ready to get your man back girlfriend? Well, keep the secrets in mind that I mentioned above and reach out to him (remember no smothering allowed) and get this thing rolling.