No matter what the cause of your relationship breakup , you can get your ex back. Right now it might seem hopeless because of all the hurtful things you said to each other. The minute he left you started feeling sorry for what you said and desperately wanted to run after him begging his forgiveness. I hope you did not give in to your emotions and make matters worse. If you have been harassing your ex with phone calls, emails and text messages, stop doing it immediately. What you need to be doing is thinking of yourself and not your ex. Your ex boyfriend had a hand in the breakup too so you cannot place all the blame on yourself.

To get your ex back you need to use these effective steps:

1. Get your emotions under control. Right now your only thought is how to get your ex back . This will only cause you to be desperate and make mistakes that will drive him farther from you and any chance of fixing the breakup. Instead you need to appear confident and positive.

2. Seek the support of family and friends. Being with people who love you and are on your side will help you get over your feeling of loss. It will also keep you away from your ex boyfriend, which is the best thing you can be doing at this time. Try to find a way to enjoy yourself and at the same time let the word get back to your ex that you seem to be doing quite well without him.

3. Now that you have your emotions under control and can think more clearly, start making plans to show your ex boyfriend what a big mistake he made. By staying away from him you are accomplishing this in part, because he will come to notice a void in his life and soon will come to see that void is caused by you being missing. This is when he will realize how much he misses you and that he still is very much in love with you.

4. Soon your ex will come to see that the only way he can fill this void in his life is by getting his ex back. It is then that he will make the first contact and tell you that the two of you need to talk. Agree with him but do not appear too anxious. In fact it might be good to tell him you would love to talk to him but you cannot make it when he wants to talk, but set another place and time. This way you are keeping control and will be in a much stronger position when you get your ex back.