Your girlfriend or wife has dumped you.She has torn your heart out and stomped all over it yet you still want to know how you can get her back. To add insult to injury, it seems that no matter how nice you are or how accommodating you have been through the breakup she simply doesn't want to hear it. She doesn't want to talk to you or even discuss the possibility of getting back together.

How will you ever be able to get her backif she won't communicate with you? Relax! This scenario is very typical of most breakups and this is how most people react after a breakup….both of you. Usually the partner who has been dumped does want to work on the relationship and the partner that has left is adamant and stands strong in their desire never to have anything to do with the person that they have left. But there is good news if you are hoping to get her back.

The good news is thatthis stage doesn't last forever. Given time all or most of the anger and stubbornness does leave and all that is left behind are the happy memories. All that remains are thoughts of how things once were between the two of you when you were happy and in love. These are the kind of thoughts that will definitely help to get her back, don't you think?

So how do you get to that point?Well, you don't get there by calling her or emailing her or texting her or wanting to talk through your problems with her all the time. Each time you contact her you are only driving her further away and extending the amount of time it is going to take to get her back. Each time you try to talk to her about getting back together you push her further away and add days, weeks or even months to your exile from her life.

So what can you do?You can give her a little time to let this stage pass. Focus on yourself and your life and what you can do to make yourself more attractive both physically and emotionally. Get control of your emotions. Resist any urge that you might have to call your ex and focus on yourself. Do anything and everything to make yourself more attractive. The next time you see her you want to knock her socks off, right? And that day is coming…the day when you set your plan to get her back into action.

Get a hobby if that is what it takesto pass the next couple of weeks. Think about something that you have always wanted to do. There has to be something that interests you that you can focus on while you're waiting to get her back. Become that happy guy that used to be able to make her laugh again. If you just can't seem to laugh any more rent a couple of funny movies or go out to a comedy club. Laughter really is a great medicine.

Soon the day will cometo get back in touch with her. Your initial contact will be to open up the lines of communication again and rekindle the flame of love that once burned strong between the two of you. If you are at a loss for exactly what to say you should spend some time studying human psychology and learn what you can say or do to draw her back to you again. These techniques usually work better than what you might think you should say to get her back.

Talking through your past problemsor spending time telling her how you have changed or promises of how things will be different will take you back to stage one and you'll have to start over….so learn what you should say and how to say it before that day comes.