Are panicked asking yourself "How can I get my boyfriend back"?Did you really mess up and now you feel as if you have completely destroyed your relationship? Are you frantic to find a way to get him back? The answer to the question "how can I get my boyfriend back" is actually really simple.

Every day on this planetin every country and on every continent couples get back together. For some it is even after some of the most horrible breakups under some of the most gruesome circumstances. People cheat on their partners and lie to the their partners and say some of the most horrendous things to the ones that they supposedly love. Everyone makes mistakes.

First, try not to beat yourself up too much.Chances are your partner messed up at one point or another in your relationship too. Nobody is perfect. It is easy to be your own worst enemy and to feel that your boyfriend is justified in breaking up with you. But if your intention is to get him back you're going to need to begin thinking positive.

Remove this one incident from your memoryfor a bit and begin thinking about all the good times that you had with your boyfriend. Think about how much he loved you and how happy you were with him. Allow yourself to daydream a little bit every day and imagine what it will be like to have him back again. Remember what it was like to hear him say that he loves you and know in your heart that he will say those words again.

Secondly, pick yourself up and dust yourself off.Regain your composure. If you ever hope to get him back again it is important that you regain control of your emotions. Are you trying to contact him all the time and wanting to talk things through with him? Have you told him that you are sorry more times than you can count? It isn't getting you anywhere, is it?

Give him some time to cool offand give yourself some time to pull yourself together. Emotions are running high right now and if he wanted to talk to you he would call you. Allow him to be angry if that is what he want. Allow him to go through this stage. Guys are a little different than women and after a period of time his anger will subside. Have you ever seen two guys fight and once it is done they shake hands and can move forward with their relationship. Give him some time to work through this.

This time will also give him the opportunityto begin to miss you. If you are constantly trying to contact him and talk to him he isn't going to miss you. He will only become more annoyed and angry. It may be difficult to do this but it is necessary for your relationship and your future. It is short term pain for long term gain.

While you are waiting it might be a good ideato come up with some sort of a plan. You should decide exactly what you want to say to him once you do get back in touch with him again and how you will say it. It is entirely possible to be able to diffuse this whole situation and get him back if you know how to communicate effectively with him and make him feel better about what has happened between the two of you.