How many times have you heard somebody tell you, or someone around you, "you gotta get your priorities straight"? Have you ever realized that many people believe they know what their priorities are? However, they are super indecisive.  So here are ten questions to ask yourself to truly identify your priorities and to make you proud of the choices you made between the dashes on your tombstone.
Self (Conversation with self 05/05/2010 10:03pm)
1.Self...Am I spending the majority of my time with things that are of leading importance to me? Does it gel with what I live for, with what gives me focus? Is it what shapes me? Am I willing to give it 1st claim on my time, energy and resources?  Does it rise above all other possibilities?..and am I willing to spend my money on it?
2. Self...Am I consciously choosing my priorities through reflection and decision about about the kind of life I want to have lived? Even if I have many priorities, one priority has to have more weight than the other.
3. Self...Do these choices consist of value( what we love and cherish), belief (what we know to be truth, right and trustworthy) and Ideals (what we want for ourselves and others)?    If they are, did you show up with sufficient commitment to see it through?
4. Self...Are your priorities authentic? Have they been set for you? Or have they been set by circumstance, culture,popularity, economics, race or belief. An authentic priority gives your life purpose and direction. It is the only way that you can move toward to self fulfillment. A life with no authenticity and no direction leads to a feeling of frustration and depleted self worth. A life with authenticity and choice of priority, will move you towards your goals, otherwise it is not a priority.
5.Self...Have you delayed the choice in choosing your priority? Choosing not to choose is a choice!
Will the choices you made between your birth-date and your death date on your Tombstone be ones you, your children and grandchildren should be proud of?

6. Self... Can you honestly say that you are living a life that is worthwhile? Or is it one with no direction? He who is going to no destination will never get there until he knows where he is going.
7. Self... Are you proud of what the man in the mirror has to say about you. Is he your friend? Although you think you are a wonderful guy can you look the man in the mirror in the eye? When you look at each other do you know that together you and he are doing all you can to make sure you have identified the right priority and acted upon it? Or are you cheating the guy looking at you in the glass?

8. Are your priorities realistic and attainable? Otherwise are you being distracted by the frustration that you have leading to more frustration? Setting unattainable goals may lead to frustration.

9. If I can say yes to all these things, I have now successfully defined priority and ready to answer the real question: are you proud about the choices you made between the dashes on your tombstone?
10.Am I going to do something with the 1st 9. If not, why am I at number ten? Do I need to start back at number one.