Presenting your loved one with a pleasant, unexpected surprise is a wonderful way to express your devotion as well as to show your playful side. By giving yourself permission to indulge in surprises, you show your partner how much you appreciate him/her. People generally take great pleasure in receiving something totally out of the blue.

You will undoubtedly become very wrapped up in devising the surprise and experience a lot of enjoyment in the process. All the work you put forth becomes worth it when you see the expression on his/her face as they receive the surprise, or perhaps in the phone call you get thanking you for the gift.

Because a surprise is so unexpected, your partner cannot help but to greatly appreciate your thoughtfulness and caring. Be careful to not overdo the gifts, as they will stop having quite as much meaning.

You may need to spend some time thinking about what may qualify as a surprise. The following are some helpful suggestions:

• 1) plan a surprise trip to see your partner when you know he/she will be home watching TV or having dinner
• 2) write a personal message in the classified section of their local paper
• 3) mail a video tape of you going about some of your daily activities
• 4) send a special card with a warm message inside
• 5) arrange delivery of flowers, cookies, or other treats along with a letter
• 6) give your partner a set amount of presents to be opened weekly until you see each other again
• 7) place a small surprise in his/her bag - such as a flash drive depicting pictures, a letter, or a video, or burn a DVD
• 8) treat your partner to a day at the spa
• 9) send your partner tickets to a sporting event or concert
• 10) subscribe your partner to a gift of the month club - wine, coffee, flowers, restaurants, books, music...

Surprising your partner helps to build anticipation and shows your thoughtfulness. Using your imagination in this way not only adds fun and spice to your relationship - it also helps keep that spark burning!

Deborah R. is a masters level social worker and enjoys helping people. Are you trying to figure out different ways to bridge the distance? For more long distance tips , go to: to learn more ways of using the time apart to bring about the best relationship possible!