Making an assumption is easy to do. Sometimes, it just seems easier to presume our significant other knows how we are feeling about something. However, common sense dictates that this is not really possible - we can not actually read minds! If your partner seems unhappy, you may jump to the conclusion that he/she does not care to spend time with you anymore or does not want to talk to you. In reality, perhaps he/she experienced a challenging work day or simply is not in a communicative mood.

Taking things personally and making assumptions is a recipe for disaster. Just as in a traditional relationship, we can not assume our partner knows exactly what we are feeling. It is important to share your emotions and thoughts, and if you are unsure about something - ask. When you go over and over things, obsessing needlessly, this only serves to create more upset and heighten agitation. If you can clearly share your concerns, hopes, and feelings, this will open the door to a more profound relationship where you can grow together.

Talking openly about some ground rules can be helpful - such as whether you can date others, how frequently you want to communicate, and any other issues that may present themselves. By "clearing the air" on a regular basis, you can avoid most misunderstandings and alleviate concerns before they can seem insurmountable or hopeless. Although it takes more effort and diligence, communicating and sharing your emotions helps avoid confusion and taking certain things for granted.

Maintaining a long distance relationship can be quite challenging, however, with good communication and diligence, many couples are very successful in continuing a happy life together - apart!

Deborah R. is a masters level social worker and enjoys helping people. Are you trying to figure out different ways to bridge the distance? For more long distance tips , go to: to learn more ways of using the time apart to bring about the best relationship possible!