A great number of people are maintaining active and healthy long distance relationships - for a lot of them, their success is due to the ability to garner the fringe benefits that are part and parcel of being separated from a loved one.

Exploring some of the positives may help you see the separation in a more constructive and positive way:

1)the extra difficulties and involvement of a long distance relationship can actually make the relationship more dynamic

2) having the extra room and ability to pursue your hobbies, personal interests, aspirations, and other relationships can allow you to be less dependent on your long distance relationship for emotional support

3) you may find it easier to find out things about one another through other means of communication (phone, letter, e-mail) than you could in person

4) due to the separation, you will not only be less likely to take your significant other for granted, but, have the added bonus of finding him/her more exceptional and appealing

5) you will have less of a tendency to be bothered by irritating habits that are hard to avoid when spending a lot of time with one person

6) you have time to consider you choices, and will be less likely to respond in a sharp or abrupt manner

7) you will be afforded plenty of leisure time to enjoy solitude

8) you can tap into and stimulate that initial flirtation and continue the courtship for a longer period

Because a long distance relationship does not take up as much time as a traditional relationship, you have a window of opportunity to strengthen your individuality - something that can seemingly go by the wayside when a couple spends all of their time together. When apart, each person can not only become more confident, but, learn about their strengths and weaknesses. By knowing yourself better, this can help promote a stronger and more genuine relationship overall!

Deborah R. is a masters level social worker and enjoys helping people. Are you trying to figure out different ways to bridge the distance? CLICK HERE to learn more long distance relationship tips, or go to: and discover additional ideas for using the time apart to bring about the best relationship possible!