It is truly amazing how we can conduct our lives, and never really notice that some seemingly insignificant habit or behavior we have, has such a significant influence on the course of what happens to us. I found that to be so for me with the Ring Shui process.

About ten years ago while in my mid-forties, I was in the throw of a midlife crisis on a difficult journey in trying to find myself for the millionth time. One day, while at an appointment with my chiropractor, he looked down at my left hand and noticed I was wearing a ring on my left middle finger.

My doctor then said to me, “Take your ring off that finger. Wearing a ring there will only bring you conflict, and you don’t need any more conflict than you already have.” As he was very learned in many things about ancient wisdoms, I knew he must know about the energies given off and going to each of the fingers. Looking at him, I had to admit my I can do it all on my own routine was wearing thin, and there were times when it was all so exhausting.  I removed the ring from that finger and placed it on my left index finger instead. From there my life began to improve.

During that time I began to notice a connection between where I wore my rings and how I viewed the concept of relationships.  I hadn’t even formulated a conscious idea about Ring Shui yet. However, I was letting more fun and love into my life and actually met the man who became my wonderful husband.

As I evolved and observed, I wrote my book.  I now can see how the configuration of where a woman wears her rings actually tells whether she is inclined to be more independent or more inter-dependent. I would like to note that a relatively dependent woman can often find it easier to become interdependent than a very independent one can, but it can be done; and it is ever so worthwhile to do so!

Here are five ways Ring Shui can help the laws of attraction work for you.

1. The right hand is aboutreleasingand putting out energy to the world and universe. Know that the rings you put on your right hand will have to do witheffort and doingon your part.  In putting a ring here, you are actually “calling out” for any help to come in that can possibly aid you in your release and healing. Place a ring on your right index finger.

2. After wearing ring on your right index finger for releasing and healing, take the ring off and experience feeling what it is like to no longer have the burden of still needing to release that particular old wound.

3. The left hand is the hand ofreceivingor being. Place a ring that reflects the intention of having joy in your soul, on your index finger that represents bringing in and experiencing ongoing love, abundance, celebration, and happiness.  Think about whatever you intend to receive into your experience because you are ready to be in the experience of being and having that which is yours.

4.  Focus on yourwillingness factor, which is your willingness to let go of that which doesn’t work in your favor and receive what does. Without judgment or criticism about yourself or anything else, lovingly notice in a detached way, how difficult or easy it is for you to place or move your rings as this process requests. This especially applies to theintentionrequest in point number five.

5. The left middle finger is the finger ofindependence. While the term “independence” in and of itself is perfectly fine and is in fact important to be able to accomplish during crucial time periods in your life, it is not always the best card to have at the helm of an intimate relationship.  If you or someone you care about ishabituallywearing a ring on their left middle finger, there is a “bit of a gig” around needing to be in control and have the last word. Just think about what is going on and possibly move the ring to see if anything changes.