Sometimes saving a relationship is a challenge. It requires hard work, time and the cooperation of both people to rescue the relationship. Are you and your mate fighting constantly? If you want to save your relationship, how can you do this? You already have! By seeking to rescue the relationship, you have taken the first steps: admitting your marital conflicts.
There are 10 steps that can help rescue the relationship. By following them, you and your mate will be on the right track to intimacy and love once more.
Step One- When a relationship begins to fail or has been falling apart for some time, most couples start throwing fighting words that hurt. When a relationship gets to this point, you have to remember there are no winners. One person will have to face up to the whole issue and stop the fighting from ensuing.
Step Two- Remember that a relationship is a work in progress by both people. One person does not decide for the other and vice versa. If there is a breakdown, then both parties are at fault. To rescue the relationship, couples have to look at themselves to figure out what created the problems in the first place. Couples will have to ask themselves what is most important in the relationship and if it is worth saving.
Step Three- One person in the relationship needs to take control of the situation. This doesn’t mean you are in control of your partner, just the situation itself.
Step Four- Be the better person by apologizing and walking away. By diffusing the situation, you can walk away with a clearer head. You do not always have to have the final say.
Step Five- If you really want to rescue the relationship, you need to find another place, a neutral ground, to have some quality time together. A good time to do this is when you are taking a vacation. By spending this time together away from all the memories of hurt and pain, you can find what was once important… your relationship.
Step Six- Most often times when persons in a relationship have an affair with someone outside of it, this causes a greater rift. By the constant arguing that occurs along with it, the person cheating is often drawn closer to his or her lover.
Step Seven- What you least expect to work when you are trying to rescue the relationship is space. Should things be extremely bad between the two of you, spending a few days away from each other tends to work too.
Step Eight- Utilize relationship counseling if things are so bad you cannot move forward. If you are fighting constantly, this is a necessary to move forward together.
Step Nine- Sometimes doing a trial separation is needed. Some couples have discovered that doing something like this ends up saving what they have. It also tends to make their relationship stronger.
Step Ten- Remember that how you act is important than the words you would say. This is also the time to make promises and follow through with them.
