If an outsider attacked your lover, would you stop him? Wouldyou defend yourself and your spouse against an attack?
A cheating lover who breaks a promise to be faithful isliterally attacking your relationship. If you suspect this ishappening, you owe it to your love to defend it. Otherwise youwill either never really be able to trust your mate, or youwon't even realize that you've been a sap until your partnerwalks out the door...forever.
If you're worried that your mate is cheating, keep your headtogether and start collecting evidence. Whatever you do, don'tlet your partner know you suspect until you have some good,solid facts to back up your suspicions. A cheating lover, backedinto a corner, usually finds an excuse to leave the relationshipprecipitously. And a faithful lover does not need to ever knowthere was suspicion.
Here are seven proven, tried-and-true ways you can catch acheating lover:
1) The single biggest tip-off is in sudden behavior changes thatcontinue sporadically. A work routine that has changed, such asstaying late at the office or long lunches could be a tell-taleclue. Call him, just to see if he's there. Even drop in on him,once you suspect him, at the office, bringing some cookies or apresent for an excuse.
2) Does she pick on you, looking for things to criticize? Thismay mean she's building a case to justify leaving therelationship for good. Does she create a fight then leave thehouse in a huff and stay away for hours? Warning!
3) Are there changes in his appearance? Does he take moreinterest in it, dressing better and being more careful withgrooming in general? Has his style of dress gone fromconservative to, say, Mobster Mannequin or Lounge Lizard? Timeto open your eyes... and keep them open.
4) Does she seem to suddenly get a lot of cell phone calls sheavoids taking in your presence? It's probably the other man.
5) Is he suddenly going out with his male friends, supposedly?Ask him where he's going, and go there to check. But besurreptitious; stay in the shadows!
6) These days, there are lots of high-tech gadgets and methodsfor capturing an adulterer. You can actually track everykeystroke in a computer, for example, every call on a cellphone... and you can do these things without a trace. Installingspy-cams is an option, or hiring a private detective.
7) Have you noticed an abrupt and lasting change in your sexlife? Is he holding out on you physically? Do you find hisexcuses downright lame? This is red-flag time.
A monogamous relationship is a serious commitment and accusing apartner of adultery is a serious charge. An open mind, balanceand neutrality are the watchwords.
Now. Memorize this article and fight back for yourrelationship... the smart way.
