Divorce after cheating is the logical next step for many relationships but it doesn't have to be for yours. You can stop your divorce today and even end it completely by following this super secret method that others aren't telling you about.
Just remember, this message will self destruct after reading.
Remember that it takes two to Tango
When you are trying to save your marriage you both have to be on board, at least a little bit, to make it work. The other person might need a little convincing but one person cannot make or break a marriage alone.
Even though you were the one who cheated you both have problems within the relationship and you're going to need to work together to identify and solve those problems.
If both of you are on board it will be a much smoother process. If he isn't on board yet it is your job to convince him.
Decide what will make You both Happy
Remember that the only people who are happy with a divorce are the attorneys. There is no such thing as a good divorce even when you think you are doing it for the right reason.
There are other options out there that are far better than divorce. Show your husband those options and see if he is willing to work with you at all to save your marriage.
Remember the Good Times
Ask your husband over for drinks and talk about the good times you had together. Remind him of all the reasons you love him and how much you want and need him in your life.
Make him understand that you chose him. It's important that he does not feel like a castoff or "also ran." Don't just tell himthatyou chose him, make him understandwhyyou chose him.
Don't get Physical
At least not yet. Don't move back into a physical relationship with your husband, even though you are trying to save your marriage, until you have some sort of emotional commitment to table all talk of divorce for the moment.
It sends a strong message that you are committed to making the marriage work and that you are planning to stand your ground. There will be no half measures or small efforts. It's something he can respect even if he doesn't like it very much.
Just make sure you offer the silver lining (and deliver) of fireworks and all manner of other explosions once you begin working things out between the two of you.
