"I wish I knew how to win my husband back ." When a woman is saying that it's obvious that her marriage has reached a point where it's teetering on the edge of disaster. If you can feel your husband pulling away and saving your relationship is your main goal, you need to act very fast. Unless you address the issues that are coming between the two of you and you find a way to change the way he feels about you, divorce could very well be in your near future.

Panic tends to define what actions a woman takes when she starts to feel the dynamic between her and her husband changing. She goes into battle mode because she is determined to fight to save her marriage. This includes doing things like crying and pleading with him to reconsider what he's feeling. As natural and necessary as it feels to do this, it won't help you win back your husband's love. In fact, it will serve to push him farther and farther away. All he sees is an overly emotional wife who can't handle a stressful situation.

Pull yourself together if you're determined to keep your marriage together . You need to recognize that it takes change to improve a relationship. You have to make some improvements and hopefully your spouse will follow suit.

Begin by taking control of your emotions. Take a deep breath and pull yourself together. Just because it feels as though your marriage is hanging by a very fine and delicate thread at the moment, don't allow that to dictate your actions. You want to show your husband that you're emotionally strong enough to weather the tough times with him.

Sit down with him and talk through the issues at hand. Be calm and in control of yourself when you do this. Don't break down into a puddle of tears and don't throw accusations around. If he shares what he's feeling and some of it reflects poorly on you, don't try and defend yourself. Instead, listen and absorb what he says. Learn from it. It will help the relationship grow and evolve.

In many marriages the couple falls into a pattern of not appreciating each other. You need to take the initiative to change this if you want to win your husband back . Starting today, make it clear to him how much you value and appreciate him as part of your life. Thank him for the things he does and do whatever you can to make his life easier. If he feels cherished by you, he'll follow suit and begin to work at making you feel the exact same way.