Your husband doesn't want to talk about your marriage. It's frustrating given the fact that you feel that there are things that the two of you need to address. Every time you attempt to bring up the state of your relationship, he quiets down or tries to change the subject. You feel emotionally exhausted and are constantly concerned that the relationship will start to unravel if you two continue to ignore the real issues. You need to find a way to get him to open up to you again. Fortunately, it may not be as difficult as you think it is.

When your husband doesn't want to talk you have to first determine what is holding him back. You may be surprised to discover that much of his resistance actually stems from you. As women, we want nothing more than to have a relationship that encompasses the idea of open and honest communication. To that end we sometimes become overbearing with our spouse when it comes to getting him to talk. We push and push him so much that he pulls back because he feels unending pressure. If you've been guilty of this, you may need to be less aggressive about the issue of communication.

Another common mistake that women make is they take offense at the things their spouse shares with them. In the past if you two talked about the relationship and you became upset or angry by the things your husband shared, he's going to be wary. He associates openness with pain and that's never a good thing. He may not want to talk about the marriage simply because he fears that it will lead to another argument. This is incredibly common and is definitely fixable.

If your husband doesn't want to talk, you need to be the one to take the necessary steps to change that. Begin by encouraging him to talk about things that aren't related to your relationship. That may include his work or his interests. Be accepting of what he tells you and listen intently. Engage him in a conversation about those subjects and be non-judgmental and encouraging.

When you feel the time is right to bring up the subject of your relationship make it very clear to your spouse that you want him to share his feelings. Ensure he knows that you're not going to interrupt him or become upset by what he tells you. Then follow through with that. If he feels that he can trust you to listen and absorb what he's feeling while you stay calm, he'll feel more comfortable talking about everything.