My boyfriend cheated on me and I still love him is something that you may be shocked to hear yourself saying. As women, we usually have a preconceived idea of what we'd do if we ever found out that our man was being unfaithful. Typically that involves telling him off and walking out the door for good. It's so much more complicated than that. When you're confronted with the realization that the man you love has been unfaithful, it doesn't automatically render all of your deep feelings for him null and void. You struggle with the understanding that he was with someone else while at the same time you still want to be with him. Although most everyone in your life will probably tell you to dump him that may not be the right approach for you. It's your heart and your life so you need to do what brings you fulfillment. If you want to work with him to get the relationship back on track, that's commendable. It's not easy though.

If your boyfriend cheated on you the first thing you must do is to be brutally honest with yourself. You've got to determine whether he's as committed to you as you are to him. It's a completely different story when he is wavering between you and the other woman. Don't feel ashamed or guilty if you still want him back even though you're unsure of who he wants. It feels very much like an emotional battle when you're faced with this. In your heart you know that he belongs with you but he may feel a strong temptation because she's offering him something you don't. That may be understanding or a sense of freedom. Quite often when a man has an affair he truly believes that the grass is greener on the other side. In his mind, he thinks that he's found something unique and refreshing with the new woman when in fact it's just his mind confusing sex with love.

There are a couple of things that you can do that can impact what your boyfriend is feeling. The first is to be understanding. That's incredibly hard when you feel betrayed but if you are truly hoping for a future with him, listen to him when he wants to explain what's been going on. Threatening him or screaming at him may feel like the right thing to do, but it's not going to accomplish anything positive. You also have to set boundaries. If your boyfriend cheated on you and he's now confused about what he wants, remove yourself from the equation. You'll accomplish a couple of important things with this action. You'll be telling him that you're not comfortable or accepting of his desire to have two lovers and that you're not willing to sit by the sidelines while he decides who he wants. Also, if you tell him that you're not going to date him while this is going on it will force him to see that he does indeed have to make a choice. Life without you may be more than he's willing to bear and if that's the case, the other woman will become a distant memory very quickly.