Since your breakup have you ever wondered about the things that went wrong and what could have been done differently in the relationship you had with your ex girlfriend?  Are you asking the question “ What can I do to win back my girlfriend ?”  and maybe even thinking about writing an apology letter or verse to improve you chances of getting her back?

These thoughts are quite normal but they may lead in the wrong direction.  Sometimes a woman doesn’t even know why the breakup happened.  So what actually caused it is a question that may forever go unresolved.

Therefore, it’s best not to waste a lot of energy and emotion on that tact. Here’s what you should do instead of dwelling on the past:

Make some new changes in your life.  Forget about your past relationship for a while.  Forget about women altogether for the time being.  Begin socializing and making new friends.  Develop new interests and take up new hobbies.

This will allow you to make gradual changes in your life and will also send the message to your girlfriend that you have moved on and are pleased with the way your life is going.

After a while you can evaluate the question “What can I do to win back my girlfriend?”.  Do you still want to get back together with her or are you ready to move on and just keep the relationship on a friendship leve?

If you do want to win back your girlfriend this may be the right time to find out if she is feeling the same about you.

Develop a strategy here and play things cool.  Play hard to get, within reason.  This will show her that you have self-confidence – something that will appeal to her .  If she has an interest in getting back with you this will make her even more eager to make it happen.  Just take your time working back into a solid relationship making sure that it’s what you both want.