If you find yourself broken hearted, and in a break up, I can help you. The no contact rule is your best bet, to win back your ex, and get over that broken heart. Maybe if you understood how a break up works, and what happens. You would understand how, and why ?tid=ab44" " the no contact rule , really works. I am going to do my best to lay it all out for you, so keep on reading...OK? Breaking up with your ex is a tough time, but you do not have to lay there, and take it.
Anatomy of a Break Up - How the No Contact Rule Works - Stage 1
OK, this is the worst part of a break up, you have just been dumped, and your mind is reeling. You have a lot of wants: You want your ex back. You want to know why, they broke up with you. And, most importantly, you want the pain to stop. Your first human reaction is an emotional one, you start begging, and pleading, and crying. This is where the no contact rule can save you. If you follow the NC rule, and stop all the pleading, and begging, the initial shock, and pain will pass much quicker, and you will feel better, sooner...Make sense?
I know this is not what you want to hear, but listen....this is the truth. You will need a good plan along with some support, to help you get started, and follow through to the end. It is only there at the end of the no contact rule, that you will find out if your ex is coming back to you, or not. That is why, it is of, the utmost importance, that you do not quit in the middle of the no contact rule strategy...Understand? In the next stage we will discuss emotional control, and how to master your command of the no contact rule.
Anatomy of a Break Up - How the No Contact Rule Works - Stage 2
The rough part is over, and if you are using the no contact rule, things are starting to become clearer for you. Now you can start to see your way through this, and back to your ex. If not, you are still swimming in a sea of self-doubt, and self-pity, and you will drown, if you stay there. In this stage of the break up, you have come to terms with the breakup, and you are working on your emotional control. You are not swimming in the sea of fear, and doubt. You built a boat, and you're sailing across it to the other side, where success, and happiness awaits you.
The main point of the no contact rule is to gain control over your emotions, before attempting to reconnect with your ex again. Why? Well, what if you get your ex to agree to a meeting, and during that meeting you break down, and start crying, and begging again? Bam! You are back to stage one again; Do you really want to go back there again? I know (from my own personal experience) that is hard, if not impossible to get your emotions under control without a plan, and someone to support you. If all the advice you are getting is to move on, and you are not ready to, then find, and use a good plan using the no contact rule, that includes personal support...OK?
Anatomy of a Break Up - How the No Contact Rule Works - Stage 3
If you really want to make it to stage 3, where you formulate a plan to reconnect with your ex again, you need a plan. The important thing to remember before attempting stage 3 is, you need to have completely passed the other two stages first. This is where personal support comes in, do not listen to people who will not support your efforts. Go find like-minded people, and use them as support. Unfortunately, the heartache forums are not that place, they just like to whine, and bitch. You do not need that, you need support...OK?
Anatomy of a Break Up - How the No Contact Rule Works - Stage 4 And Beyond
Why would anyone do this? I mean, do you really think by randomly getting advice from friends, family, and co-workers, that you are going to succeed? You need a plan, a plan that works, and you need it now. What? You want to use the no contact rule, but you do not have a plan, or support?
If you do not have a good plan…I do, and it works…just take a look at my success stories page. I will be happy to help you, and to guide you, if you are willing to work with me, and the plan. Just get the “best free advice” out there, and learn how to properly use t ?tid=ab44" " he no contact rule . Do It Today! Learn from your mistakes, before you make them….and go get your ex back.
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love's ass~
