Even in today's fast paced world where gender bias and illiteracy are thankfully on the decline, there are still geographical regions in this world where educated, aware and successful career men and women opt for marriages arranged by parents or well meaning elders.
Many of these marriages become real life stories where "they live happily ever after". The reasons behind the success of arranged marriages can become lessons to be learnt for any marriage that needs that little something to make it successful.
In successful arranged marriages
- The partners get to know each other better only after getting married. It could be a beautiful journey of getting acquainted with each others preferences and attitudes
- The families of the partners stand behind them through thick and thin. Any adversity is coped with the material, emotional and professional support of these family members
- Partners can start married life without any impediments of culture shock. Culture shock (when either partner has to accept a different living style of the spouse) is almost absent in arranged marriages as the partnership is between like people from near similar backgrounds.
There is a different school of thought that feels arranging marriages is a barbaric practice. How can a marriage be arranged by someone else, argue some, when it is an intensely private physical and emotional relationship and bonding between two people?
The strongest dissent against an arranged marriage is that the arrangement is a well camouflaged business deal between two families that stand to gain from the marriage.
It is you and you alone who can make up your mind about the person you would want to share the rest of your life with. People trust their intellect enough to gauge who would be Mr. or Ms Right. It is undeniable that family, cultural individuality, educational preferences and social profile of every individual defines who he or she is.
Yet, nuances of personal oddities, characteristic gestures and general mental and emotional make up, besides physical appearance will help you decide what you are looking for in a partner. The choices made here are extremely personal and so, involving a third person to decide what is best for you, is out of question.
Whether the cons outweigh the pros depends on individual perspective, but after a marriage, ever couple sincerely strives to keep the partnership going, successfully and happily. If the partners encounter obstacles and stress in this endeavor then there is always help available
- As friends and family providing much needed support and understanding
- As professional counselors who can analyze the problem and offer a practical solution that is custom made for the particular scenario
- As books that can help solve the problem without involving other people.
The last option provides you with millions and millions of books, both hard copies and online, that can help alleviate the problem successfully and confidentially. E-books are here to stay and you can find books on all subjects under the sun. Some of them are genuinely effective in helping people with problems help themselves. satisfied readers claim to have found their bearings once more, after facing difficult situations, with the help of well written e-books.
