The decision to break up with your boyfriend isn't always an easy one.
You've been with the same guy for over a year now. You're in it for the win: marriage with children, the whole shebang. You thought you'd found Mr. Right, but lately you're starting to wonder. How can you tell when you've let a relationship go on too long?
1. You're at different points in life.
You're high school sweethearts, together since freshman year, but now it's time for you to go off to college, and your boyfriend is staying local. Or maybe your man is ready for commitment, but you still need time to settle down. Remember always to put yourself first. Don't give up that dream job or that year in South America you've been planning your whole life. If your relationship isn't compatible with your own personal goals, then you and your guy may need to go separate ways.
2. You want different things out of life.
Some say relationships are all about compromise; but everyone knows that compromise is often a euphemism for nobody getting what he or she really wants. It's all right to compromise on the color of your bed sheets or on where to go for dinner; but when it comes to bigger, more serious matters-like city or suburbs, Christmas or Hanukkah, how many kids to have, or whether to have them at all-compromise isn't always an option. If you're starting to realize that he may not want the same things out of life as you do, then you may want to start thinking of finding someone else.
3. He doesn't do the things he used to do.
Remember when you two first met? Remember all those cute little things he did that made you fall in love with him? Did he tell stupid jokes to make you smile, hold you by the waist when he kissed you good night, and text you from work to tell you he was thinking of you? If those things stopped-which they typically do-you may want to ask yourself what's keeping you in the relationship. Are you really in love with the guy, or did you just fall in love with the way he treated you? Lots of guys can play the game; but when it's game over, don't let his all-star performance keep you in a relationship that you don't really want.
4. You don't do the things you used to do.
On the same note, do you remember the things thatyouused to do? You probably used to call your girlfriends to analyze the last detail of every date. You probably agonized over whether to call him or wait for him to call you. You probably gushed over his every move. But now that the romance has dwindled down, are you starting to find his every move a little bit obnoxious? If you aren't responding to your man like you used to, it's possible you may be over him without even knowing it.
5. You have thoughts of being with other men.
It's one thing to look; it's another to think. If you find yourself fantasizing about being with other men-not just sexually but also emotionally-you may not be as happy with your current mate as you need to be if things are going to last. Take inventory of how often you consider leaving your relationship for a new one. You may in fact be ready for a change.
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