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After a bad break-up, many women try to hide the fact that they've broken-up with a man. They're afraid that their family and friends will criticize them or make fun of their situation. But why does a woman do that? Well, here's what happens...
When a woman has a loving relationship with a man, she usually tells her friends and family about it and she leaves the impression that everything is going well and that things are headed "in the right direction". Most of the times she's doing that because that's what seems to happen and because she wants to let everybody know that she's happy and in control of her love life.
So when the unexplainable(for her, at least) break-up occurs she is ashamed to admit "defeat" and tell other people what happened. She doesn't want to let everybody down and tell them that he left her out of the blue. They wouldn't understand.
Ok, she doesn't tell them. So what's the problem with that? Well, there are a several problems actually.
Problem #1:If you hide the fact that you broke-up with him, you can't go out with the girls and meet new men. This a critical thing to understand because eventually, you'll have to start dating again and if your friends don't know about you're break-up, they will behave with you in a way that prevents you from meeting new men.
Problem #2:You'll feel bad every time someone close to you asks about your relationship with your boyfriend. Actually, you'll anticipate the possibility of that taking place and avoid the discussion or the interaction altogether. You'll have a tendency to isolate yourself.
Problem #3:You'll see your break-up worse than it really is, because you won't have access to other women's experience with break-ups. Some of the women you know may have had it worse that you can imagine at some point in their life. But if you don't tell anyone about your situation, they won't tell you about their own. They can't help you if they don't know that you have this problem.
Problem #4:Talking is a very effective way to get heavy thoughts out of your mind. If you don't tell anyone about your problem, you'll have a hard time getting rid of the obsessive thoughts connected to the break-up.
Problem #5:You can't fully let go if the people around you think that you're still with him. They will create the illusion that you're still together with that man. They will talk, behave and react as if you would still be in the relationship. This is not going to help you to let go and move on with your life. If he's still a subject of discussion in your social circle, your memories of him can't fade away.
To sum up, I think that now it's obvious to you that hiding the fact that you broke-up with a man isn't the way to go, even if it may seem easier than letting people know the truth. The fact is that the sooner you tell your friends and family, the sooner you'll get over the feelings of loss that you experience right now.
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