You are married but currently living separately. However, you want to save your marriage. So, what do you need to do to convince your spouse that to save a marriage is possible? Do not despair. There are realistic options available to help you change the mind of your spouse who is about to walk out. Let me show you some strategies you can use right now to get your spouse to agree to save your marriage.
Do not run away from problems!
Promising to change is insufficient to convince a spouse to save a marriage. You need to give your spouse real reasons for your change and for not repeating certain mistakes in the future. Take action to change, show your spouse your sincerity and things will get better. Especially if you had an affair before or you have been struggling with an addiction.
Do not be unreasonable!
This is not the right time to be pushy. Avoid guilt trips, threats and begging. Such actions and behavior will more likely to push your partner farther away from you. You will never succeed in convincing your spouse. Stay calm and use logical approach when you are trying to convince your spouse to join you in marriage counseling. You need to let your spouse see the time invested is worth putting in the effort to save the marriage.
You must take care of yourself!
Marital problems are always accompanied by stress and mood swings. There are times when you will feel helpless. You just do not want to do anything. Never give in to your feelings. It will only make you more depressed and you will end up driving your spouse farther away. Get enough sleep. Do not neglect your responsibilities like your home maintenance or finances.
Fake it until you make it!
Do not be shocked. This is a common strategy used by businesses and in other areas of social life. The way we feel, the way we behave and the way others see us is always influenced by the way we act. Put aside the fact that your marriage is in trouble. Remember your spouse as the person you fell deeply in love with. Treat your partner the same way you did when both of you were in love. It is not going to be easy though. You spouse is liable to pick a fight with you especially if there are bitter feelings inside. However, if you believe strongly in saving your marriage, keep on persevering.
It is never easy for anyone to convince a spouse to save a marriage. However, it is not impossible. It all depends on you. You must stay calm and seek help to find solutions to the marriage problems you are facing. All you need to do is take action and believe that things will get better.
