What do you believe about relationships?
Your beliefs are important because they determine therelationship (or lack of relationship) you end up with.
For example, if you believe that all men cheat, you'll attractcheaters. If you believe that men resist commitment, you'llprobably end up with a guy who's in no hurry to sit for anengagement photo.
If you believe you don't have what it takes to meet a guy who'lllove you for the rest of your life, guess what? You're right.
Change your beliefs, and you'll change the type of men --andrelationships -- you attract.
If you find yourself dating the same type of guy over and over,it is definitely going to mess with your belief system (and it'sprobably a result of your belief system!). You probably don'tthink that a guy who'll make you happy really exists. I'll betyou find yourself working too hard every time you start arelationship, or go on a date, or even to a party.
Stop.
I want you to sit down and ask yourself what you want out ofyour next relationship. Decide what you want in a man, insteadof obsessing over how to get a man, how to please a man, and howto dress for a man.
After you determine what you want, jot it down. Then write anaffirmation around it.
Here's the one that worked for me:
"I am happily married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful,fun man."
(Because I formerly attracted guys who cheated, went hot andcold on me, didn't call or show up when they said they would,and weren't particularly fun.)
I'd really feel it, too. I brought all my senses into what itwould be like to be married to a loyal, loving, reliable,successful, fun man.
What would it look like?
Feel like?
Smell like?
Taste like?
Sound like?
When I wasn't writing my affirmation, I went about my life asusual. I went to work. I hung out on Friday and Saturday nightswith my friends. All the while, I kept writing (and feeling) myaffirmations every day.
Then, the man I married walked into my life. The beautiful thingis, we're actually happily married. Too many couples aren't.
Would you like to be happily married someday?
You can have what you want if you know what you want, and if youbelieve it's possible.
Affirmations will make it possible.
Decide what you want. Think up an affirmation and write it 15-20times every single day. Before you know it, you'll be datingbetter men, perhaps the one who'll bring you joy for the rest ofyour life.
