Ironically, perfection might be a flawed concept for you and me. It might be the last thing standing between you and what you want.
The pursuit of perfection probably results in more cancellations than anything else. It’s a good excuse not to because if perfection isn’t there, then I’m excused for looking into it further or gathering any further evidence.
There is a lack of recognition as to what is perfect. I am seeking perfection but I couldn’t recognize it if its winds did come in my direction because I don’t have the perfect eye for seeing perfection and my creative vision has been cramped by the narrowness of my pursuits.
I might begin to realize that I am putting a premium on perfection, meaning I’m bargaining away other opportunities that don’t meet up with the word perfect. But I might consider whether this is where I want to put my premium and if it best serves my purposes and designs.
I am pondering what should be perfect for me but that might leave some important things relatively out of sight and out of mind because my theory of relativity means I am looking at opportunities relative to perfection’s mandates which by my own choice I am putting first on line.
I could also think of what would be big for me. If I could do this or that, it would be big for me, regardless of whether I could achieve actual perfection. This could be big for me an extend past the line of what I expected. It might not be perfection, but it certainly surpasses previously held expectations. Pondering what is going to be a relatively big deal for me if and when I get there is also a way of identification of what I actually want that doesn’t always mesh in total with perfection.
As to what I hope to identify and define as being perfect is it ever going to be there or is it never going to be there? I want to be a perfect center in the NBA, but since I’m only 6’5 feet tall I’m never going to jump the tap against the Shaq who’s height advantage has already decided that outcome for the most part.
Perfection and its standards might be rising to high against the investigative process. I might be trying to raise my sights by investigating something and at the same time perfection is the leading theme of the investigation, but also I want to look at what lacks perfection but might be useful nonetheless. I want two boats to appear on the seas horizon when I just really need the one and I can reach compromises with perfection to get that one boat moving. Compromise with some of your ideals of perfection if it will help you move.The investigative process does include the imagination that you do want to keep active. You want to have an active and in use imagination and warrants to be perfect seem to at times hide away the imaginary world and its processes that are part of what forms our launch point. Hence the hawks of perfection hindering or circling around what was otherwise a free and open and widely circling launching pad.
If I have a job or situation that I can in fact work perfectly, then that should be a red flag, a red flag saying that there is not enough creativity involved in this pursuit because I can achieve perfection but the creative process is muted a bit and not enough creativity is bubbling up. Too much perfection as defined in performances is an indicator that I'm not taking creative chances.
Perfection might take out the percentages for me. I am 50 percent interested in this. Perfection tells me I should be 100 percent interested or forget about it whereas I can take and work with lesser percentages especially in the face of possible real rewards. I can allow myself and frame for smaller percentages that 100 percent in my decision making and pursuits.
Perfection can result in an all or nothing mentality where we lose sight of both the gradations and elongations. Even if we get perfection for this moment, it’s not going to stretch out to infinity for us. In addition, a truthful look at any situation involves gradations and nuances that involve proper particularization of what we are seeing. The ease of perfection may be just another trap blinding us to the real. It is easy enough to count 1,2,3 perfectly, but realism is the first order of the day, not an escape into easily found perfection and thereby avoiding complexities involved in the typical mess and working through the nuances involved with that..
I am looking for perfection or nothing. I need to work with less than perfect because I need to not take the easy way out by saying where is the perfect road? It is too much easy streets to say I have to have perfection and then I walk away on that basis. I have to have it this way, the perfect way or I will not have it at all. I am at the beach waiting for that perfect wave and I will consider nothing else as far as a wave. By doing this, I am not escaping the chaos either, and I’m better off just going more fully into the chaos, letting those waters rumble as they may and then is the perfect wave does arise, so be it. Let the wanted perfection go, and bring on the chaos, and then I can still maybe get some tints of perfection even as I am dealing with greater or lesser degrees of actual chaos from which there is now way I can reduce away from if I want to proceed.
I’m not far behind. This is a very positive statement and in some cases, it might be the proper view. If my potential as an actor is to be not far behind Ben Affleck, then maybe I should be in the movies. But sometimes when I am just taking in the view of perfection, I might not see that I’m not far behind. That I am not far behind is not a daring statement but just a reality telling me that is this is so, than I can proceed with hope in sight.
The view of being not far behind is quite good and although not perfect, if I am not far behind Tiger Woods on the golf course, then I need to know the meaning and charting involved in that as well. I might be looking for my dream date, but if that doesn’t happen I might find another date that is not far behind. Instead of thinking why am I am not perfect, think about how good it is to be not far behind.
I might be thinking about perfection and I might miss the next best thing. If I can’t get the best things or perfect things, I have the option of the next best thing if I can accept this. If I can’t get exactly what I thought I wanted, what is the next best thing? Then I might not be perfect but I might be better at this or that. I might not be the President or the king but I might be better as schoolteacher, gymnast, runner, swimmer, and reader of books than many of my contemporaries. But maybe I just rate with my contemporaries, I bounce off this side of the wall, they bounce off that side of the wall, but I am operating within similar boundary markers. Everybody is in the chaos, and the range that can be found is only within some manner of chaos, chaos that is even 1 percent there does introduce that there is chaos.
Perfection can trip up the comparisons if I compare myself to perfection I might lose some sight and recognition as to what I still have, going for me that might not reach into the realm of perfection but might be an asset nonetheless that is still very usable. But, maybe you are in a comparable range to perfection is when someone says, " How are you doing?" And you answer, "compared to what, perfection?" But the search for perfection is going to have the tendency of putting us on a comparison trip because what compares to perfection? And in consideration of new territory, everybody faces new territory that is completely not traveled at starting points and mandates from perfection right at start point zero, doesn’t exactly get one into working territory if I have such a long and arduous road ahead and I also need to know where perfection lies on this road right from the outset. I might want to test capacities. I might even have the capacity to become a positive person and coach myself in that fashion. But I don’t know what my capacities are until I let myself first find and then go through the finding out process so in this case I am not necessarily looking for perfection but just to find out what my capacities are in this or that and at least allow myself to test for and view into my capacities by visiting what is in part experiential. Because I don’t know my actual capacities, I search them out as a partial unknown and the deciphering process in that isn’t that I am looking for perfection, I am just looking for what are the capacities involved here and whether there indeed are capacities that can be breached.
No matter what I can accomplish, in the day, or in a given period, there is a lot that I am going to have to leave undone. Wanting perfection isn’t going to get everything done because it just isn’t possible. I am dealing with limitations as to what can be done at the outset and all the way through.
We might be raising the bar a little bit too high by trying to things perfectly and I can practice dealing with confidence and basically just look at what will raise my confidence rather than what will raise perfection because my personal confidence is more of an intrinsic factor and or need. What I am I trying to raise, it might be confidence, it might be awareness, it might be the ability to experience, but I need not always raise the banner of perfection and it’s standards.
My search for perfection might be like running after the sunset instead of just taking it in as a wondrous moment in time.
Whatever I can capture in the moment is probably not going to ring through the ages for me anyway so I can only hope to be present to the moment first and only then ask humbly what could echo through the ages for me on this.
What would and could form into a proper symphony for me. Not that we want to be passive, but the striving must have a course that we actually begin to walk into with some light at the end of some tunnel. Perfect or not can I go somewhere with this that is more contextual to who and where I am now? I have a right to feel, know and immerse into context and the situational realities, because that is where I am.
The key point is that if we are going to work with the idea of perfection at all, we need to see perfection as not being a stationary concept. Perfection itself might show different faces. The new faces of perfection will appear as things change and suddenly know I do have this in a degree of perfection or in a way that can be describable as perfect. We will still need to make continuing moves if we want to track with currents of perfection, sometimes these currents may clash, and we need to move realizing that we are tracking with more than one thing. To have any workability, perfection cannot be seen as a stationary concept. It might not have been there and suddenly it has arisen, like the rising sun of the early dawn.
While your looking for perfection, you might miss your connections which are critical to just getting into wanted scenes. Therefore, especially if you are feeling confused and maybe even dismayed, try and first figure your way through this in highlighting the connections you do want to meet rather then perfections you do want to achieve. You can reconsider and worry about that later but first get on the train you do want to catch.
A key concept with this is also that the coordinates of perfection will move or change within the currents of perfection. The standing stations of perfection will change and then stand somewhere else. As we patrol the waters of perfection, we need to look at around at the movements of the sea.
The face of perfection might be changing and perfection or no perfection change is the order of the day and try first to ger right with the changes..
What does perfection mean to people and how do they use the concept? Perfectionism for some can result in absolutism. For them for things to be perfect it absolutely has to be this way. The focus must be absolute and absolutely I must obtain this goal when it could be decidedly dropped or toned down to lighter expectations. Perfection for some is making plans and following those plans to the tee. The blueprint, the outline, the plans, should not be compromised if perfection can be found. The basic problem with this is that who is too say that the plan was right in the first place or that other plans once carried out may carry equal or real viability or have wanted results. Or even more outrageous is expecting that the variables that are to be faced could be fully foreseen or contemplated and controlled for at the outset. Even if I can foresee fully and I can contemplate fully, that doesn’t suddenly leave me fully able to do wanted things with this foresight and great contemplations. I may have an advantage I otherwise did not have, but only an advantage and advantages don’t always play to the thunder either. I need to adjust my outline, adjust my plans, adjust my ideas as I travel further down the coastline.
For some perfection involves what is known. I want that established equilibrium, I want the known perfection. But wanting this isn’t going to get me this. What I don’t know dwarfs anything I can possibly know. How much of the future can I know from this moment? But if I am seeking perfection and correlate that with having to know, it might cost me the chance to seek the unknown and yet see it as exciting, as an adventure and possible holding some good or positive surprises. How can you derive excitement from the unknown and first want that visible perfection? I don’t have to see that unknown that way, but I could try to think of the unknown as something that might be good, and maybe this way of approaching things would be advantageous at times. Then perfection might relate against the turnaround, against getting it back, getting on another track. Since I looked for perfection, I lost my way and I might as well give up. How about the turnaround? I already lost perfection, she sailed away, so I totally give up and I don’t make the turn for anything new. However, some turnaround was still possible. If I only looked on more time, but I turned my back to the coast one last time.
Then I am looking inward, or am I looking outward, where I am looking? Seeking perfection can result in an aggravated sense of self-focus and it can result it too much of an outward focus at times. I need to balance the outer and inner focus and neither neglect the outer or inner as I chart my course while blending both, but my definition of perfection has me off balance there. For example, I should be socializing more and with people more. But I am waiting for the perfect time so I can present a perfect front and image or when I most feel like it not realizing that feeling arise and surface as we go into things. I feel the waters as I go into the seas. In the meantime, I am too inward in my focus and I am losing the balance beam of perfection in that way. I wasn’t able to balance myself to the shifting sands along my coastline. Those dunes of perfection were too high for me. Or I did have perfections winds behind my sails and I just don’t or didn’t see it that way. My concepts and definitions of perfection were cloudy, yet perfection did arise from what I had, and I mistakenly did not know I had it, and I ended up looking for something I already had, a mistake made by many.
Then perfection seems to relate to limits. If I’m perfect, if I can find this perfection, then there shouldn’t be any limits there. Can I forget about my limitations then once I am finally perfect? I need to keep them in mind if I am to chart a course that is workable. But really the perfection I am looking for is found within real limits but despite these limits I do have the perfection. I can’t hurl a baseball across the ocean and that is my mistaken definition of perfection. However I can hit the mitt of the catcher every time from the pitchers mound and for that I have the perfect pitch. But some people start to feel the word perfection usurps real limitations when I am never going to find myself without limitations and it is better to know the game I’m in rather than thinking the game is different from false truths that I had arrived to in my thinking and in yet another way, I lose the truth of the perfection I actually did have.
And then limitations that might not be there are imposed by perfections demands. I think the perfect woman would also include being a super model. But then I could consider a woman who isn’t a supermodel, but not if I am looking for my idea of perfection. I am limiting myself to a woman with a given set of circumstances or characteristics. The perfect woman is 30 years old, so I limit myself to woman of this age and I don’t launch from any other platform of thinking.
This also ties up in not seeing what might be real abundance. I am looking for a perfect woman on the crowded beach. There is an abundance of women on the beach, but because of my idea of perfection, I don’t see this abundance or the range of abundance that is really there. Where are the boundary markers and who determines where they are? I am looking for a perfect idea when there is a flock of good ideas out there or an open range of good ideas out there. If things aren’t rolling out perfectly for you it doesn’t mean they aren’t rolling out for you and often quite abundantly and there are more ways to extend what I want if I don’t predefine off what is a more elusive concept of wanted perfection.
Then I think the perfection takes on all the risk. I can skydive perfectly, I could surf the giant waves perfectly, but is this perfection I am finding take away the real risks of what I am doing. The risk remains right within the perfection because even if I am the perfect surfer, the real risk of the titanic wave is not a mirage that perfect surfing masks over.
Or it could be just around the corner. An example could be the apple tree with an abundance of apples, but only one perfect apple. Even if you find that perfect apple, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t lot’s of other apples on that tree and the reach of what that tree has to offer is in reality greater than what my demand for perfection conceptualizes in the moment . The perfection is sought by some as some sort of monuments that is a citation to some things or to have in my sight. But in the end, neither perfection nor imperfection is going to be left standing as regards to you and me and perfection needs to more be seen as something that I can move with, move into, if it is going to reach in the plains of valid and usable and forward seeking.
Then some of us want to show perfection but we might end up with perfections mask. But then what happens if I want to take that mask off, and the truth of my imperfection is revealed. And then I might have made a mistake, I had the wrong interpretation of what perfection was, in fact I was perfect underneath the mask,, but I thought not, so I hid that perfect self with what I thought was a mask of perfection but it was actually a mask of imperfection. The perfection I thought I was presenting with the mask, hid the true gem. I was so worried about perfection, that I actually hid perfection by not keeping this to their original form.
Then I might be looking for perfection and I can’t even tell. For me it’s not even a searchable characteristic. I can’t seem to search the interior. I am on this date, is she perfect, I don’t know? I don’t even have the tools to test for perfection. I am not a weatherman and I don’t have the barometers and I am not a perfection man because I don’t have those barometers, I don’t even know how to test for perfection.
An especially important idea that relates to perfection is pace. I feel like I should pick up the pace. I can’t be sure that a faster pace will bring me to perfection. It might be true but in other cases, I might be better off slowing the pace. There might be instances where I am missing out because I am operating at a faster pace. Other times I might be missing out because I am operating at too slow a pace. I might be moving to a slower clock or I might need to move to a slower clock. The increased velocity is only going to take me so far, I not going to the Moon anytime soon no matter how much I pick up the pace. I might try to capture perfection at a faster pace, but it still might outrun me in elusive fashion. The symphony that will work for me might be found at another pace. With a faster pace, it might be that I am compressing expectations into a smaller time frame or period. I confine my efforts to this time frame and this pace, where the eventual results might be found within a longer time horizon or a different pace. I might find my way on the next series of events. This might not have been my series and maybe things will find their niche in the next series. I’ll find my way next time. If I had followed a fast pace to nowhere, I still want to pace myself for the next series, the next time, and have some left for that. What I can do wrong here is that I make judgments off frames. For example, I am working on a project, I judge it off a week time frame, where I could judge it better off a month time frame. I judge it off a how things are looking straight through the week or month and judge it off how consistent the results might be, where the results might be found in clusters and I need to frame for results off clusters rather than a smooth terrain view.
Or I might have driven myself right past my goals and what I want by following too fast a pace, and losing the eye of the observer. Alternatively, I get up drive for the sake of drive. I drive myself forward in something I don’t want or I am not interested in. I hate golf, but I practice all the time, why bother, then, save that drive for something you like. But I really do like golf, and I frame this to where it is a leisurely pursuit that I will get to after I have reached some other pinnacle. So if I don’t reach that pinnacle, I don’t golf. For example, I will not golf this year until I have earned 100 thousand dollars. This is the frame I’ve established, and if I don’t first make that money, I just don’t golf for the year. If I want to do this, I can do this but realize that the frame up I choose, was my choice and it is a changeable choice. I can say, I’ll go golfing after I make my first 5,000 for the year. I thereby change the frame and pace of my decisions. I can work with perfection on a one-time basis. I’ll give this dream one shot, and then I’ll go back. I’ll try for an adventurous job in a foreign land for one time, or I’ll try to write one novel or one page of a novel if that is to high a goal. Again it is the frame I choose, I can choose a frame of multiple attempts rather than just one. I can try every 6 months for a job in a foreign land rather than say trying just once.
What happens also is we lose the partial sometimes when we look for perfection, if something isn’t perfect doesn’t mean we need to assign a zero to it. It this is something I have that I can’t conceivably value at perfection, I don’t automatically assign no value to it either.
There is the idea of a qualified perfection. I say this qualifies as perfect is this or that happens or is present. But really what is going to qualify as perfection and that can chance at different periods of your life. Maybe going of and hitting the mountains after to many months in the office now for this period indeed does qualify as perfect in the quest for rejuvenation and in finding a lost part of yourself that can be activated again if you do go away.
As far as perfection, even if it is there, I might not be able to get to it. Perfection might have a wider scope than you can reach.
Say for example, the ocean is deemed as perfect. You go to the ocean. It is so vast how much of it can you reach anyway. You go in the water, you can’t see to the bottom or the to the far distance beyond the horizon. You take a cup and fill it with water from the ocean, how much of this ocean have you been able to capture?
In the movie the Beach, Leonardo DeCaprio and friends have a map showing the way to a hidden perfect beach. But issues impose as the movie progresses and ultimately he can’t have this perfect beach.
I could be perfect and see the perfection in front of me in any number of areas, but that doesn’t mean I can get to it. I look up at the perfect star, that doesn’t mean I can get there.
I go to the beach and in the distance, I see some perfect surfers’ waves. But between these waves and the shores are savage currents. I can’t get to the waves without crossing through these savage currents. I can’t get there without an extreme risk. I can go to another part of the beach where the waves are good, but not perfect but these waves are within the reachable realm. But I can get to them and ride them with a fair amount of safety. So what is better, the perfection I see but can’t get to, or the less perfect that I can actually get to?
You get the Sunday Times. You consider every article perfect. But how many articles can you get to without spending the complete day with the paper? To read every article is really out of reach even if you spent the whole day with the paper.
You go to the library. There are lots of books you want to read cover to cover, these books are close to perfect. But you can’t get to every book in the library of Congress, even as a speed-reader. The perfection is right there, but the scope of it is too wide for you to actually reach. The perfection might be in the far away future or the distant past and you can’t reach it because it not there right now. You can’t see the perfect movie in 2110 at this point. But even if it’s right in front of us now, we still might not be able to get to most of it. Say there is a stadium full of close to perfect people at this game. Can you talk with all of them at this time? The perfection is there, but you can’t position yourself for all of it.
Another difficulty with using the concept of perfection is it can disorder our priorities. We consider what we want to put up front. For example, I say I’ll only paint this picture if I can do it just about perfectly. Suddenly, painting is less of a priority, where it might have been the thing to do today if I hadn’t introduced the idea of perfection into the situation.
Should I order my priorities on what I could do more perfectly. For example, I don’t want to date anybody unless they are close to perfect as a date. I want the perfect date with the perfect history, or I expect the person to not have a history, when everyone has a history. Or if she doesn’t have the perfect history she should have a perfect history retroactive to 1999. Anyway, I want some retro perfection in the least. At the same time, I myself am less than perfect using the same retrospective analysis. But I hold off in search of the ideal. But what happens is the whole issue becomes a secondary consideration because I have made perfection or my idea of it primary, while it is possible this is indeed a good idea that is should still be out front, a lead issue, even with the accompanying imperfection which seems to be present and seems like it might remain present. But I have subtly reordered my priorities based on wanted perfection. I brought my desire for perfection onto my scale of what is important and weighed what was important based on perfection, less perfection, or the lesser to the all the way to the lack of perfection. I would have kept my interest and search for perfection as a separated sphere from my ordering of my priorities but this search for perfection issued right into how I ordered my priorities. I can’t accept the degrees of imperfection I might indeed find and have to deal with, and I use this as an excuse to bypass the whole idea.
Sometimes we feel bad that we miss perfection. Maybe we should also feel bad then if we miss something that is less then perfect, but still good.
The pursuit of perfection might involve a rush to judgment that just is not necessary. I can go into the situation without a need for rushing to judgment because why burden myself additionally if I really don’t want to, if I feel like taking my time and I don’t see perfection, why am I so in a rush to find it? There tends to be a gearing up if I don’t at first get what I want. I feel if I can only bring in more perfection that will bring me there. Surely, I will need to adjust pertinent variables, but the hold on the situation will not suddenly jump into perfections arena just because I have plugged in better to real and viable variables.
You say, I didn’t think this would have been perfect. Then you say, I thought it would be good, but I was looking for perfection. I would say, maybe you missed out on something good then. I have put some things under the strain of perfections demands as the presiding weight of perfection is keeping me from moving with agility and breeziness into the future.
You would want your doctor, or someone who worked on the brakes on your car before you went down a mountain road to be a perfectionist. Would you want the engineer that designed your car not to be a perfectionist?
Maybe we wouldn’t know perfection if it was staring us in the face.
Realistically, when we are talking about perfection we are talking about being close to perfect.
Perfection may have a hold on you or you might have things on hold for perfection.
Here is the perfectionist phone call. I call you up, " Hi, how are you" I have to put you on hold. "What for" I ask. You say, "I’m waiting for perfection". Okay, I’ll see you next century.
These people have things being held up for the perfection they seek. They might not even know it when they see it.
Because they are holding on to perfection, perfection has a hold on them. Just like a bank being held up and eventually robbed, they might be robbing themselves out of opportunities by having perfection hold them up not only in the moment but also down the roadways of what otherwise might have been possible or could have been traversed if perfection was left by the wayside.
Also, there has always been a link between the search for perfection and procrastination. Because perfection seems to count for more even it is isn’t fully quantifiable, I am generally waiting for bigger numbers or something bigger and sometimes that wait tends to be longer.
The perfections wait might ironically work against finding perfection. I’m waiting on perfection in this situation, which will work against the letting go process, which is necessary or desirable in some situations as I can never be totally freed from chaos in the search. While I am patiently waiting on this situation for perfection, there might be another situation I am bypassing which is much closer to perfection and much easier to deal with right from the beginning or get go and the initial startup possibilities are real and could possibly be traversed in reality. At least I can get a start elsewhere, while perfection wouldn’t even give me a place at it’s starting line because it is so hard to get a toehold then.
You can only give what you can give. For example, my friend is a hairstylist. I want to give her business and I want to let her cut my hair once or twice a week. However, once I have my hair cut, it takes a month or so to grow back, so the best I can give her as a customer needing a haircut is a once a month visit to help her business out that way.
We might join ourselves into some creative process and look for perfection at the same time. First, I might want to increase the creative level. The first focus as far as our designs should be on the creative process rather than the perf
