If you happened across a magic lamp, complete with a genie begging to be allowed to satisfy the requisite three wishes, what would you wish for? World peace? A bazillion dollars? A new car? A raise at work? That cute girl or guy to notice you? These are pretty common wishes, and most all people have wishes that would make themfeel very happyif they came true. Unfortunately, most people don't know how easy it is tomake wishes come true.The reason is because when peoplehave a wish, we usually think of it as something outside of us, or beyond us, and some magical force is needed to allow us toget it. After youread this, that will change. Because you are going tolearn the easy wayof turning wishes into something thatyou can easily achieve.
To begin, you need to turn the wish into a goal. Now for most people, a goal is simply a wish that they wish about a lot. Or maybe they might have started a few steps in the right direction, but in reality, it is still a wish. Not you. After youread this, you willbe far aheadof everyone else.
You have to create what is called awell formed goal. Let's take the wish of losing weight. Say 15 lbs. The first thing to do, is write down your goal. You can either do this as you read this, or after youunderstand thissimple process, you can do it later. Lets start.
"I want to lose 15 lbs."
Thefirst step, is to state it in the positive. So instead of saying what you want to get rid of, express it in terms of what you want to be like after you've gotten rid of it. That changes the above goal to
"I want to weigh 160 lbs." (If now I weight 175 lbs.) See how that works? Other examples:
"I want to quit smoking" becomes "I am smoke free."
"I want to quit playing video games 5 hours a day" becomes "I want to spend my free time outside."
Thesecond stepis to make sure your goal is totally in your control. If you need to depend on somebody else tomake it happen, change your goal around so it only requires your action.
Thethird stepis toimagine all the benefitsyou'll enjoy when your goal is true. I will fit into my pants better. I'll feel healthier. I'll be able toparticipate in sportsmore easily. You should really give yourself time on this one, because the more good reasons you think of, the easier it will become.
Thefourth step, and perhaps the most difficult, is to make sure you keep the positive aspects of your current condition. It can be sometimes hard topin this down, because it's difficult to understand how one canget benefitfrom something you don't like all that much. The good part is, once youfigure this part out, being able toachieve your goalwill be a snap. In my example above, I want to weigh 160 lbs, I have to discover the hidden reason why I'm stuck at 175 lbs. One reason might be that I really enjoy eating ice cream every night after work. In that case, I'd have to find some other activity that I enjoy as much or more, and doesn't give me all those calories. Another reason might be that if I lost weight I'd wouldn't have an excuse not to be more social. In that case, I need to figure out how towork on those issues. If you have trouble figuring this part out, don't worry. I'll be writing plenty more articles that can help you easilyresolve these issues, so make sure youcheck back often.
Thefifth stepis tomake surethat your goal really is your goal. A lot of times we want toachieve things, but deep down we really want to achieve them to please other people. Parents, friends, spouses. Ask yourself this question: "If I achieved this goal, and NOBODY else knew, would I still want it?"
It might take some time, but when youwork at itand run your wishes through these five steps, they will naturally turn into easily achievable results. And the more wishes you run through this simple five step process, the more you'll be able toachieve in your life.
