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The humiliation, pain and anxiety that an affair causes in a marriage has been documented as more devastating and painful than nearly all other marital problems. The lies and deception an affair inflicts upon a marriage is something that many people find extremely difficult to deal with during and after an affair and many go looking for extramarital affair advice to help them through this period so they can make the right decisions and not act too rashly.
If you are certain an affair is going on or that your spouse has had an affair the first thing most people think of is to leave them as they cannot possibly imagine being with this person who has betrayed them. While this may sometimes be the best option most marriages actually survive affairs but sometimes not for the better. You see affairs happen for a reason, they are rarely as simple as unfaithfulness as an evil and uncaring act. Affair comes form some problem within a marriage or is a problem with the person committing the affair; they will sleep with other people because they believe something has driven to it or that it fulfills some need they feel they cannot get from their partner. While it is painful to think about these things you must understand what caused this rift between you before you can make any sort of decision on what to do next. The biggest problem is of course finding this out as it may not be obvious.
This leads us to the first thing you must do which is to cultivate honesty in yourself and your partner. While you may understand that your partner needs to be honest and come clean about the affair you must also be honest with yourself. This means you must not use the knowledge of the affair to give yourself power over them and you must not let your pain and hurt cloud your judgment, these things can lead you to completely distort the situation and destroy any real chance to reconcile or understand the affair and any decision you make will be the wrong one!
If you can get your partner to confess to his affair this is usually the best way, only then do they come forward with honest intentions that can be used as a building block to resolving this conflict. If they will not however you must eventually confront them about this, if you do so make sure you do not make it aggressively confrontational. People who argue emotionally never actually listen and resolve issues and as much as you may want to rant and rage such things are counter productive. Only once you confront your partner and talk about the affair can you understand it so you can make the right decision for yourself and your relationship.
So what is the right decision? This depends on so many factors it is impossible to give simple solutions. The type of affair they are having and root cause of the affair is of chief importance to coming to this decision and these are the things you must know in depth. Some good news is that many relationships become better after an affair! While you may not be able to imagine it at this point the truth is that the affair was the end result of some problem within your relationship (this does NOT mean it is your fault!) which has come to the boil and may provide a catalyst for a reconciliation and change in behaviors which may strengthen your relationship. This will only happen if you have the strength to work at it however, the affair was started because of weakness and if you let weakness run your own life it can be just as bad so stay strong!
The complexity of relationships, love and emotions within the context of infidelity makes giving extramarital affair advice very difficult in short articles but I hope this may help you take the first steps to a better life.
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