If you have ever been dumped, you can that the days following the initial breakup can be rough. How you normally would act can be altered just by being dumped. You typically act on feelings. However, you can get through this time, dealing with it on a “sane” level and perhaps be friends at the end or get over the past love.
Are you ready to get over a past love? Do you know which part of the dumped stage you are in? Do you want to get your ex back? No matter what level you are on, the thing to do is to distinguish it and deal with it. Remember, what you think and what is comfortable to you are most important. You need not worry with what people have to say about it all.
Where you go from here really depends on which stage of the breakup you are in. Are just getting started on breaking up? Then get it done. You don’t want to hold onto the hope that it may get better. For the both of you, it is best if one of you is honest.
Has the relationship ended? Then this is the time to accept it. If you learn what went wrong in the relationship, you can use it to your benefit for your next relationship and move on. It can difficult moving on but accepting it really does clear the way for you to hit the ground running. Does this mean you won’t feel bad about how things went? Not at all; in fact, you may feel confused, betrayed and doubt, for starters. It’s natural to wonder how to go on when you have lost the love of your life. Always take time to mourn the loss.
After you’ve done your mourning, it’s time to pick yourself up and brush yourself off. While it seems easier said than done, it can be done. Your goal is to get over a past love or get them back. Go see your friends. Make some time to hang out with them outside your home. Try to make a “to do” list and stay with it. If you can stay active both mentally and physically, you can get over a past love much easier. It makes you look to the future as if it is a little brighter.
There are 10 other things you can do to get over a past love. They are:
(1) Hide those pictures or objects that would remind you of your ex;
(2) Do something nice for yourself like joining a gym or going to a spa to relax;
(3) Make time to meet new folks;
(4) Restore the spiritual bond you have;
(5) Get out and date. Doing this gives you a chance to boost your own ego. (This doesn’t mean go out, date and get serious unless you are ready to do so.);
(6) Go out with friends for a day away;
(7) Don’t hold in your feelings. Talk with someone you trust about them;
(8) Don’t rush into another relationship. Stay single for awhile and relish it;
(9) Be sure to make it a girls’ or guys’ night out only; and
(10) Try to remember that you can deal with things on your own but it’s good to have friends to help you out.
It’s important to reiterate that going out immediately and finding someone to be with is a bad mistake. While they are a wonderful distraction from your initial breakup, they tend not to last. Always learn who the person is first before just jumping into the relationship. Rebound relationships are usually not done this way. Should you find someone who perks up your interest then find out who they are first.
If your goal is to win back your ex, you can use the same advice. If you broke up over a huge issues and things are not done to resolve it, chances the relationship will work a second time are close to nil. If both of you want to make a second go of it, try to take it slow. Respond to the relationship as if it were the first time you have went out with one another. However, whether or not you get over a past love, it’s always best to work on your feelings and your emotions before seeking out a new relationship. It is best to remember that piece of advice.
