The Trick to Getting Unstuck!
Face it; unless you are a contortionist, getting stuck signifies pain in three real ways – body, mind and soul.
I know I've been in that metaphorical box, know the four walls like the back of my own hand.
There were times in my life where I answered "yes" to the following:
- I'm not doing something correctly.
- I'm not succeeding.
- I'm not fulfilling my potential.
- I'm not doing my job to my utmost.
- I can't see what the next challenge is going to be.
- I can't get motivated.
In short, I felt stuck.
Feeling stuck is disempowering and prefaced by disempowering thoughts. Compounded by the fact that stuck feels like it is never going to get better, that something external has a grip on you so tight – keeping you small and in an "icky-sticky" place.
The small, contained and fixated-feeling is just an indicator that your current thought pattern, belief structure and attitude is too narrow. Have you ever tried something on that is too tight? What's the result? It gets stuck. Consider that your thoughts work the same way.
The antidote is to loosen-up your current perception around whatever has a hold on you.
Are you willing to look at the situation differently and in a more positive light? Ask yourself, "What good things can I learn from this that will help me reach my goals?"
And yes, this will require you to stretch your thinking and "think" something new: leave your comfort zone.
Look at the alternative: if you want more of the same "stuck", keep doing exactly what you have been doing, and you'll get the same results.
But, if you are ready to move and get unstuck, try my Top 10 Tips for Getting Unstuck:
1. Relax. Breathe Deep. And think of the Quick Sand Theory: Don't struggle. Resisting will only push you under further. Instead, stop moving, wailing, blaming, talking and get calmly centered. When you pause long enough, you'll float to the top and be able to crawl out.
2. Take the elevator down. Leave your Monkey Mind for a moment and do some somatic work- get into your body by scanning your muscles head to toe, releasing tightness, and tension. You'll be able to move when you body and mind is more relaxed.
3. Don't make "it" about others being and doing wrong. Bypass the negative judgment and opt for more empowering thoughts and self talk of encouragement directed toward supporting you.
4. Accept 100% personal responsibility for moving yourself out and forward.
5. Get clear on what you want so you have a visible target. No bow and arrow, no matter how strong or sharp, can do its proper job without a target.
6. Get clearer by taking out a piece of paper and begin writing what you want now in great, fun detail. P.S. Don't worry about the how-I-am-going-to-do-it.
7. Reframe your current perspective from Leaving Your Comfort Zone toExpandingYour Comfort Zone. Take Baby Steps: Rent the funny movie starring Bill Murray and Richard Dreyfus "What About Bob?"
8. Make more easy decisions in one day, than you have in the last month. Flex and build your decision muscle with little stuff – go clean out a cupboard or closet.
9. Do just one thing different today- e.g. different route from work, or part your hair on the other side. This is how a breakthrough occurs.
10. Set a goal for yourself that you will accomplish in 30 days from today, give it a deadline and take action now!
