You had both reached that point in the relationship where you could see yourselves spending the rest of your lives together, so you got engaged. A bit further on down the road, maybe not long after and maybe even on the day itself, one or both of you decided that you did not want to get married. It does not matter who called it off, this is a massive blow to both of you, and your dreams of a happy, fulfilling future together have just gone up in smoke. So, how can you deal with a broken engagement.
The most difficult thing to do is that you are going to have to talk things through with your fiance. Now, discussing sensitive issues like this when your emotions are in turmoil is not going to be easy, especially when the only way to get answers is going to be for both of you to talk rationally and calmly. Screaming at each is not going to help either of you, if you want to move things forward you at least need to know what led to the break. However things pan out you must be able to accept the decision, if you do not then it could eat away at you and seriously hinder your attempts to find happiness.
It could be pre-wedding jitters that just got the better of your fiance and spun out of control, maybe they are scared that they will lose the relationship that they have with you once they marry, it could be the case that they seen far too any people get divorced and they do not want to join the statistics? Whatever their fears, talking them through it is the best way to deal with and hopefully rescue a broken engagement.
With impending weddings all the focus seems to be on the big day and nothing else. What everyone keeps forgetting is that the wedding is a celebration of your relationship and commitment, and I think that the relationship and the bonds that bind you together can really suffer during this time. One half of the couple could be pushed aside on the relentless march to W day, their fears and concerns maybe sidelined because there is to much organising to get through, not enough time to give to them, then they start to wonder how strong their relationship really is.
Maybe this day, that is all about the two of you has been hijacked by family who are looking to turn it into their day. There is a lot of stress floating about at this time and it is possible that you both have concerns about marriage so you decide to call it a day. When you are having to deal with a broken engagement it is all to easy to think that you have failed. Do not think that! It is possible that this relationship was not meant to be and it is far better calling a halt to it now, rather than having to go through the trauma of a divorce somewhere down the line.
Once you no longer have the stress of an impending wedding hanging over you, you can work through all your issues in a much calmer way. It might be that you both move of in separate directions, in which case get out there and find someone who will give you the fulfilling relationship that you deserve. On the other hand, having worked through your issues your relationship could become stronger, you could always end up marrying at a some other time or you might stay together and be happily unmarried, all that matters is that love is there and that you are happy.
When you deal with a broken engagement it will take time as human emotion tends to be a very complex thing. Do not forget that you both have support networks in your family and friends, use them, they want to help and will help you through all this. Whatever the result I hope that it all works out for you and that you are able to head into a brighter future.
