Teenagers have a lot to deal with. They have to withstand peer pressure, deal with adult expectations and rejections. It's natural that sometimes they are confused and discontented. This causes low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence, which in turn causes depression, unhappiness, and insecurity among teenagers.
Help him feel confident, even while emphasising the importance of good manners and healthy values.
Symptoms of a troubled teen:
* Performing badly in school, lack of concentration, and forgetfulness
* Remaining aloof, keeping away from friends and activities
* Feeling sad and hopeless
* Prone to quick bouts of anger and rage, or reacting strongly to criticism
* Being indecisive, restless, and agitated
* Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
* Substance abuse
* Having problems with authority
Take charge before the symptoms become too severe.
What to tell your teenager :
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Face your fears. Once you face them, you will feel that they aren't as bad as you thought they were. Facing your fears will increase your confidence.
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Forget past failures. Don't assume that just because you failed before, things will go wrong again. Look on your failures as stepping stones.
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Reward yourself when you have achieved something. Self-help is always the best help. Learn to rely on yourself.
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Talk to others. Don't come to hasty conclusions about a situation or a person. If you have any doubts or questions, clarify. Don't assume things.
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Don't let failure defeat you. Accept it. Try something else. Everyone fails at some point in life.
AS PARENTS :
o Help your child to make new friends.
o Motivate your child to participate in sports.
o Encourage him to acquire new hobbies.
o Encourage him to keep a private journal. It will help him deal with his fears.
o Encourage him to do volunteer work. Help him get a realistic view of the world.
Provide him with strong family support.
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If he comes to you with his problems, help him make the best of what he has.
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Remember to mention his positive points and encourage every small accomplishment.
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It is all right to exert a little pressure or promise of rewards to induce your child to perform. But, too much pressure can lead to rebelliousness or fear of failure.
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It is better to accept your teenager for what he is. Be realistic in your expectations. Never focus on his weaknesses.
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Finally, help him to get up on his feet again when or if he fails.
Show unconditional love towards your child. Let him feel cared for and wanted. Keep working at it continuously. All you need is a different approach
