How To Deal With A Manipulator

I like to make every day a circus and find a few clowns who I can relax with, once in a while I run into a manipulator.  In this article, you are going to learn how to deal with a manipulator and possibly develop an interest in mentalism!

Have you ever watched the TV show the mentalist?  It's a great show and it shows you how a mentalist can be in control and have a fun filled life.  Being in control, does not mean manipulating other people for your own selfish gain and emotional fulfillment.  Being in control, means being in control of your mind and your emotions, which will affect the people around you.

Sadly, millions of nice and polite people get killed on the streets everyday, because a trained street fighter can see them coming a mile away.  Just like the king cobra knows when to strike, you need to know how and when to deal with a manipulator.  I've found that manipulators are more prevalent at where you work, then just about anyplace else.  Just think, there's nothing worse than having to deal with a manipulator for eight hours a day, but the good news is, there is a way.

I decided to look around online and see what other people have to say about manipulators.  Honestly, there was not a lot of good information, in fact, one site said to be aware of certain behaviors.  Let me do one better than and say go with your gut instinct.  If you see someone approaching you and you get a bad feeling and it's not gas, there is most likely something wrong with that person.  Keeping your mind open and allowing your feelings to work freely and not restraining them, allows you to feel danger in the blink of an eye.

In mentalism, it's all about developing a powerful mindset and allowing your senses to feel and experience your surroundings.  One of the best movies I've ever seen is called "Blind Fury", with Rutger Hauer and if you have not seen this movie watch it today.  Basically, this movie is about a man who becomes blind and is trained in the martial arts, more importantly, he develops his senses.  I believe that today our senses are not working at the optimal level, but they can be.  Developing a tranquil and peaceful mind, will help you to sense and be aware of your surroundings like never before.

Let your favorite new word become no, instead of yes!  Practice every day saying no, unless a really super sexy person comes up to you and ask for a date, then you can make an exception.  What happens many times is a manipulator will coerce you into doing something, you don't want to do.  They pull this off, because they have everything preplanned.  Most manipulators that I've dwelt with are excellent planners!  You must be ready with a quick preplanned ready-made answer, that will stop them immediately.  A manipulator is not ready for a quick and smart answer.

Everyday practice saying this to yourself, "I don't need to stand by and let others push me around.  I call my own shots in life and I'm in control."  Say this out loud every day, until you believe it!  I believe we have been over programmed with being too nice!  This is about reprogramming your mind and telling yourself the truth.  You may be thinking, what if I say no to people and they don't like me anymore.  Trust me, you'll sleep better and feel better knowing that you took control!

First off, don't worry about what other people think, because do you really think they care about your feelings and your needs.  Manipulators, want to make you feel stupid and guilty, so don't let them do it.  Look at them and just say no or no thank you.  Better yet, give them a great excuse!  You can say something like, "let me get back to you on that one."
Remember, you are the one who is in control and not them, only if you have a ready response.

Here's one of my favorites, "sorry, I just don't have a desire to do that or I don't want to."  Throw manipulators these lovely answers and you will walk out of work with a smile on your face for once!  If you want to learn more about my mental magic and take control of your life click here!