Where and how do you start when "how to get him back after a break up?"is the only question on your mind? Most people fail to realize that relationships are really pretty fragile until it is almost too late to slavage. We tend to take our relationships for granted until after the break up is at hand, but once the split does occur, all too often, we find ourselves in a stressful, frustrating,and frightening situation. But, even though nerves are shot, and we can't even think straight, we are so desperate, we'll go to any extremes to learn how to get him back fast.
To begin with, if you really do want find out how to get him to come back to you, give up the stinking thinking thoughts about how you would like to get back at him. Limit yourself to doing the things that will not only show your ex how important you were to him and are to him now, but also do the things that will actually move toward repairing the relationship. Here are 5 excellent tips on how to get him back:
1. Do the one thing that you absolutely don't want to do right now.Stop communicating with him for a while. This will seem counterproductive, but just let him think about things for a little while with no contact from you. This lack of contact from you gives him time to clear his head and realize how valuable you were and how valuable the relationship still is to him. There may be some things you will have to talk about, but keep your communication to a minimum.
2. Force yourself to get out of the house.This is not the time for you to barricade yourself away from social life. Start seeing friends and family, but you probably don't want to resume dating right now. As hard as it will be for you to get out and about right now, amazingly you will be able to enjoy some activities and it will, for stretches at a time, take your mind off the break up. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help bring your ex to his senses.
3. Be cooperative with your ex after the break up.Again, this is probably the last thing you are inclined to do, but try flexibility in things like having him get his things out or completely moving out by a certain date. Listen and sympathize with his needs too. This considerate behavior on your part may get him to start communicating with you in ways that he didn't before the break up occurred. Seeing you act this way may inspire him to see you in an entirely different and favorable light.
4. Avoid appearing needy.Clinging and begging only make you seem desperate. In many ways this will be the hardest thing for you to do, but you need to let your ex see that you are functioning quite well on your own, that you are strong, and that you have moved on. Interestingly, this counter-intuitive behavior will cause your ex to see that while you are going on with your life, he has not.
5. Return to being yourself.Often people change 180 degrees when they get into a relationship, they cease being themselves. Exhibit the behavior that you did when you first got together, this renewed self perception not only makes you feel better about yourself, it will also cause your ex to once again see you for the person he first fell in love with.
