It may seem impossible to you now, but even if the divorce is final and your ex wife has moved on to a rebound relationship, there is a real possibility that you canget your ex wife back, but just how do you go about getting her back?
To begin with, what is a rebound relationship? It is where your ex wife, perhaps the love of your life, is dating someone else to help her get over you. Rebound relationships serve two purposes, they help with the pain of breaking up and they also help the newly divorced move on from a meaningful, loving, real relationship.
Realizing that your ex is involved in a rebound relationship to help her cope with the fact that she has lost you is an important clue to your actually getting her back. The question, "How do I get my ex wife back?" is easily to solve once you know what is behind the rebound in the first place.
It really doesn't matter who was at fault, and it doesn't matter who broke off the relationship, what does matter is that the two of you shared real love together. The thing is that when two people share real love, the relationship can be mended, reconciliation really can happen.
One way that you can tell if she is in a rebound relationship is that she will be dating someone who is exactly opposite from you. For example, if you were a loving family type guy that everyone thought hung the moon, the guy she is dating on the rebound will probably be a bit of a scoundrel. If you like to watch sports, he will probably be a thinker, or it could be the other way around.
As crazy as this seems, this gives you a chance to see what she is looking for in a relationship, and it also tells you that even though she is dating someone else, she is still focused on you enough to be looking for someone with opposite traits.
Here is the deal, if she is dating someone that is 180 degrees different than you, then this gives you a real opportunity to see what she was missing in you. You can use this rebound situation to your advantage, use this time that your ex is messing around with the rebound guy to correct the things in your personality that she perceived as troubling.
Just sit back and let the rebound situation play itself out. As she spends more time with the new man, she will soon begin to see the defects in him. And, after a few weeks of dealing with his flaws, you will start to look pretty darn good again.
For this reason, you don't want to appear too anxious to get back with her. Let her realize that she misses all your good qualities.
When she is ready to get back together, be generous and gracious, but most of all be a new and improved version of your old self, however don't resort to chasing after her. Here are some specific things you can do when your ex wife is in a rebound relationship:
1. Let her come to the conclusion on her own that you are the love of her life. Avoid trying to convince her yourself.
2. She still knows the true reasons why she fell in love with you and why she still loves you, so just say that you are sorry one time. Avoid apologizing over and over again. Once you've said, "I'm sorry", then move on.
3. Although you are willing to change some things about yourself, don't make concrete promises to change. She fell in love with you for who you are. If you are guilty of taking the relationship for granted, then try to go back to being the man she fell in love with, but never beg her to take you back.
Instead of being devastated that she is seeing someone on the rebound, take the situation as an encouraging sign that she is still in love with you. Use the rebound time to take the steps necessary to get your ex wife back, if you two shared real love, you will get back together again.
