How To Set Achievable Smart Goals

I know with certainty that everyone will experience a more successful and enjoyable life if they learned to effectively communicate. Anthony Robbins, in my opinion the greatest modern day personal development coach, said, "The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives." Effective communication determines the quality of your life with others while self development determines the quality of life with yourself. Self development forms your inner communication and progresses you towards building interpersonal relationships. There are several reasons why people do not set goals, which are similar to why people do not learn effective communication.

The first reason people do not set goals is they fail to see its importance. Like people that avoid developing their communication and other aspects of themselves, they do not see the importance of setting goals. I have met people unbelievably resistant to developing their communication. They have actually been insulted to hear they need to improve their communication! Every person can always communicate more effectively to improve their life.
The second reason people do not set goals is they fear criticism. People criticize for many reasons. In the first chapter on criticism in my Communication Secrets of Powerful People, I mention the most common reason for criticism is a desire to improve people. Other reasons include a habitual perception of faults in people, anger, a belief that greatness cannot be achieved, and a hidden agenda to hold people back from reaching their goals. Average people do not want others to go beyond average.

A person can fear setting goals because each time they have set goals in the past, others have criticized them for dreaming big. Others impose their self-limiting beliefs through criticism instilling fear within the person. Think of receiving criticism as a poisonous needle injected into your body. It slowly controls and destroys what you want. The destructive thought of fear controls the person from achieving anything remarkable.
To overcome the fear of criticism, put bluntly, screw what people think. Do not allow people to destroy your life with their beliefs. You would not tie a one tonne boulder to your leg when swimming so stop tying people's limiting words to your mind. Society is filled with endless garbage to prevent you from achieving your goals. If you want something, go and get it by setting and achieving personal goals with the directions given in this article.

The third reason people do not set goals is a fear of failure. These people might think success is the absence of failure. The opposite is true. Success comes from failing a lot and failing fast. "I haven't failed," said famous inventor Thomas Edison. "I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." Being an inventor, Edison knew that failure was the nuts and bolts that constructed his success.

To be powerful beings, we must remove the traditional meaning of failure from our reality by changing its meaning. You do this by breaking down what failure means to you. How do you know that what you feel is failure? You are most probably frustrated with not getting what you want. You mistake frustration for failure.

A failed attempt shows you took action. You overcame stagnation by stepping towards your goal. Knowing this helps you enjoy failure. That’s right! Enjoy failure!

The fourth reason people do not set goals is a fear success. People who fear success believe success is bad. The fear is common in wealth and wanting an attractive partner because the fearful individual is afraid of negative results if one gets what he or she wants. Wealth becomes evil or a certain type of partner is categorized as unfaithful. The fear does not let them achieve what they want. These are just some of the many reasons why people don't like to set goals.