How to solve a problem facing you?
Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate.
It must be accepted that this life is full of problems and this man has to face all these problems. Our whole like goes on solving these problems. Sometime we are successful and sometime we fail and when we fail, we face frustration and often condemned to inferiority complex and when we are successful, we are proud of our victory.
The man who is properly educated, properly trained and is properly adjusted at work, he is in a position to solve his problems, but the people who have got no education, no training and they are not properly adjusted at work and always short of money, often face difficulties in solving their problems. We must accept that most of our problems are concerning money and people who could afford often could solve their problems with the help of money.When a problem comes in our life, we must have the following options with us:
- We must make efforts which are within our reach and when something is beyond us, we must leave the matter to God who shall decide and shall help us.
- We should identify our sources and resources and must try to utilize those sources and resources, within our limits to solve the problems.
- We should identify the people who can help us because most of the people who can help us are within our reach and some of them could be our friends, relatives and near relatives.
- We should identify all money resources at our command and must know upto what extent we can utilize that money which is within our own resources.
- The person who has created problem for us could also be identified and if it is possible, we must meet him and talk to him. There are chances that the man shall be listening to us and shall be removing the hurdles which he had created for us and this problem had taken its birth.
- If it is concerning health, we can consult a doctor and if is concerning litigation, we can consult a lawyer having competency in the field.
- If something is concerning with regard to your married daughter, then you should meet your son in law and even his parents could be contacted and they may be persuaded to know your difficulties and the difficulties lying before your daughter.
- If the problem is with regard to addiction, then some expert in the line may be contacted and some institutions are there who are trying to help the drug addicts.
- If your child is not having proper education, then consult the teacher and if the child is not improving, then we must see that he is given admission in some institution from where he could get some technical training so that he too could be settled in life.
10. If the problem is concerning the marriage of your ward/wards, then we can contact all our relatives, friends, see the news papers and there are people who are registering candidates for choosing a life partner. We can utilise these institutions.
11. We should consult people expert in vocational guidance when we are choosing a profession, trade, calling and employment for our ward and this work must be done at a proper stage so that the child could select proper subjects and could attain proper standards which are required for admission and competition.
12. If we are condemned to inferiority complex, we should read good books and must meet those people who give us an encouraging response and we should avoid meeting such people who are condemning us.
13. If we are facing shortage of money, we can consult some financial institutions who can give us loan on reasonable interest and before taking loan, we must be sure that we shall be in a position to return that loan money because these institutions, though helping us, yet they do not spare us when are defaulters in repayment of loan.
14. If some socalled saint or sadhu or some other is just trying to create so many fears before us, we must ignore that fellow because nothing supernatural shall fall upon us.
15. We must keep our problems before us and first of all we must try to locate something from our resources and in rare cases we should disclose our problems to others and seek their help, because most of the people shall be laughing at our situations.
These are some of the resources which we must utilize for solving our problems and some more items could be located by us as per need of the time.
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