If you've recently had a breakup, you might be wondering if it'd ever be possible to make things right with your ex again. Many of us aren't happy about the idea of our relationships being over, even if we were the ones to initiate the breakup!
However, there's no way to get back with your ex unless you know he wants you back. It can sometimes be hard to tell if he's still interested, or if things are over and done with as far as he's concerned. Here's how to tell if your ex boyfriend wants you back, and what to do if you think he does.
One of the things that can make it hard to tell if your ex wants to get back together is that wishful thinking can color your perceptions. Sometimes we want to restart the relationship so badly that we see things that aren't really there. If you're worried you might be doing this, it's time to take a big step back.
Think about things and observe your and your ex boyfriend's behavior to make sure that you're not being the clingy ex. Remember - just because he still wants to be your good friend doesn't mean that the relationship will still work out.
On the other hand, if you're seeing a lot of him, and he's very interested in your life and what you're doing, the chances of getting back together are a bit higher. One big sign is if he's asking whether or not you're dating again. He might not ask you directly - often he'll ask one of your friends to avoid an uncomfortable moment. If your ex boyfriend is interested in starting things up again, you may feel like he's courting you or behaving like he did when you first got together.
Even if it seems like he's interested in beginning a relationship again, you should remember to take things slow. It can be tempting to just jump right back into the relationship where you left off, but there was a reason you stopped dating. Whether it was an indiscretion on one of your parts, a misunderstanding, or a major incompatibility, it needs to be addressed before you get back together.
Pretend you've just met, and begin the relationship all over again. This is the safest option, and it could be an incredibly romantic experience. Just remember not to fall head over heels without thinking things through!
If you're not sure how to tell if your ex boyfriend wants you back, it's time to look at your behavior and his. Asking friends and family whose opinion you trust can be a good option, too. There's a good chance he'll confide in them even if he's too nervous to talk about a relationship with you. Your trusted confidants can tell you if he's still interested, and if they think getting you back together is a smart idea.
