A relationship consists of different stages, which you seldom think about, specially if you are in a new relationship. If you had recently broken up and have reconciled, you will be less likely to think about that. It is in fact good to know these different phases so that you understand where you stand in the relationship and get an idea of what is in store for you.
The first stage is obviously the one where you just meet each other and do your very best to impress the other person. You are both in a very romantic mood. During that period, everything is so new and you feel very happy no matter what your significant does and says. For you, he or she is the perfect one.
Each of you slowly begins to strive for power and many couples do not manage to get over that stage. This leads to the part where their marriage and relationship becomes a failure.
At about six months or a year, the freshness that had invaded everything now fades away gradually and you do not find things as wonderful as before. The reason behind this can be that you both have needs and which you want to be met. You try to find out where your partner fails in doing that and you point out his or her flaws. You need to understand that they can be yours as well. So, breathe out from this suffocating situation for the time being to see if these are not in fact your flaws as well.
It is not only your partner who has flaws but you too have. If you both manage to deal with this stage, your relationship can be rescued and go on stronger. If you can not cope with this stage, it can lead to a break up. Therefore, the two of you need to communicate openly.
Communication can lead to the point when you realize that the person can not be changed and there is nothing you can do. This is another stage.
If things get worse instead of improving, this is the stage where you may need to end the relationship You should not feel miserable but be happy for what the person had to offer.
Now, there is another stage where you do not want to break up the relationship. You commit yourself in still trying to make things work.
Therefore, these stages can help you understand what is going on and the reason behind it.
