When someone asks how you are doing, or how your kids are, do you say'Amazing!!'...?
Or, like many people, do you say something self-deprecating and possibly slightly negative so that you'll have something to talk about, and so that the person will identify and empathise with you? For example,'Oh my daughter is great but she's struggling a little with xyz...'
What would you happen if you said instead'Awesome! We're amazing and Sally is the best in her class and she also just ran a marathon! We're so proud and excited!!'- ?
What comes up for you when you think about this - show-off? Stuck-up? While I am not necessarily advocating that you answer questions like this (although it wouldn't hurt), I am suggesting you explore your thought patterns, asking yourself why you might answer such questions in a certain way.
Here's another example: what about when you have something fantastic and sparkly and new - a new haircut, an outfit you bought, a new car? When someone notices, do you immediately feel the need to explain how you got a deal on it? Would you feel comfortable talking about how wonderful and decadent and expensive it was? And if so, would you follow up with something like'Yes, but it was a treat'...?
Indulging ourselves 'now and then' is all about lack mentality - did you know that? It says we are not worthy of constant abundance, of ever-flowing wealth and wonderful-ness. We are confirming our belief that there is a limited supply - of whatever! - and that we must therefore ration things and REALLY appreciate when we get 'special' things...
But why can't our whole lives be special, and wonderful, and decadent? Why would we not appreciate it? It's a lie that when we have more, we appreciate less. Get rid of this mentality! The wealthier we are, the more we can be generous both with ourselves and with others, so the argument that wanting wealth and abundance is a selfish thought just doesn't wash...
Here is a lovely quote from the wonderful Marianne Williamson:"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
THERE IS ENOUGH. THERE IS MORE THAN ENOUGH. YOU ARE MAGNIFICENT. LIVE IT!!!
