Imagine that a few weeks from now, you and your husband will be coming home from work, enter the house smiling at you, and say "hey, I have missed you today", while kissing you on the chick.
Imagine for a moment that your love life can be as good as they were when you and your husband have just got marriage. How good it would feel.
Do you find yourself sometimes thinking about how the daily routine decreased the romance, patience, and joy in your marriage?
If so you are not alone. High divorce rates are the evidence that many couples find themselves tired from day to day life. Some loose it after many yours of marriage, and some just loose it right at the beginning.
On the other hand, there are couples that their marriage is like wine. It is just keep on getting better through the years.
What makes the difference? What are the secrets that loving long time couples know? How can they preserve and even increase the love, acceptance, patience and romance through the years?
Most of us tend to find good excuses for our marriage bad condition, but we kind of forget our own responsibility for making this relationship a good relationship!
Some examples for what you can do?
Ask for things.
Don't expect your partner to just do things for you. To "read" your mind or to guess what is it that you want. Just say it.
A friend of mind who's mother volunteer in a home of abused woman has told me an amazing story about a woman that the husband used to beat her up for almost 40 years. One day she had told him to stop because she is just not ready to take it anymore. He has stopped right at the moment! Isn't this amazing?
Of course this example is not valid to most relationships, but it can show you the power of saying what you want, and what you are ready to give or take.
Talk about your emotions
Instead of telling him that he makes you angry, just tell him that what he is doing make your fell this way or the other.
This is not just semantics, this is the difference between blaming the person, rather then stating that you are sensitive to some things or have preferences.
Talk about these topics:
Common goals
Common values
Roles taking and responsibility areas
Make decision making strategies
You will be surprised to find that talking about these topics can bring you both closer even better then before, make things happen at the house and even spark your love life.
Say a good word and give compliments from time to time
Well, this advice do not really need many explanations all of us like a compliment and find good will toward our partner when getting one.
These strategies might sound simple and but these simple strategies do work.
It might be a little strange for you to be using them, and there for my suggestion is - take it easy, and slow, one step at the time. Don't force you self too much. Just do a little thing every time.
Within a very short while you will feel comfortable to do another step forward, and you will definitely feel the change in your marriage and in your happiness.
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