Overcome stress by raising your self-esteem

Stress usually comes out of a feeling of not being able to cope with the situation, not knowing what to do or doubting that what one does will be good enough. All of these three feelings stem out of low self- esteem. If you raise your self-esteem you will experience less stress.

Stress can also be positive. It can for example keep you alert when you need to concentrate on something important. I'm not referring to this kind of positive stress in this article. Positive stress is not reduced by higher self-esteem. Only the negative stress that is dangerous for body and soul is reduced when you raise your self-esteem.

Not feeling that you can handle an upcoming situation or a situation that you are in at the moment makes you feel stressed. For example, you may have too many tasks to do that you doubt that you will be able to finish them all in time. Whatever the source of the feeling is (lack of time, the task being too difficult etc), it is still the same feeling of not being good enough to cope. This feeling of not having what it takes to deal with the situation is more commonly experienced by people with low self-esteem. They doubt that they are competent enough, valuable enough, good-looking enough and so on. People with low self-esteem have a lower threshold for when they start to feel like this, so that they start to feel stressed more easily than people with high self-esteem. Even with relatively small triggers, people with low self-esteem start to feel in this negative way.

Another underlying feeling behind stress is the feeling of not know what to do. You may be faced by a situation that is totally new to you, such as when you visit another culture and you don't know what is expected of you. You get stressed because you are not in control of the situation. People with high self-esteem and people with low self- esteem of get into new situations equally often, but people with high self-esteem are better able to cope with being in situations when they don't know what to do because they know that whatever they do, they are still good people. They are not afraid of making fools of themselves because they still have a sense of personal worth. Raising your self-esteem will therefore protect you against getting stressed because you do not know what to do.

Finally, stress sometimes comes from the feeling that what you do (or who you are) will not be good enough. People with low self-esteem encounter this feeling more often because they measure their value in terms of what others think about them. People with high self-esteem on the other hand feel their personal value within themselves and are not equally affected by what others think about them. Consequently, they do not worry as much about what others think about them. They do not get stressed as easily because of the possibility that other people will think that they are doing a bad job. As long as they feel that they have done their best, they feel good. Raising your self-esteem will thus help you to avoid this kind of stress as well.

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