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If you read any agony aunt columns you will often see a letter titled " should I get back together with my ex boyfriend ".  The answer is always; "It depends!".

It depends on your age, how long you were together, why you broke up and ultimately what both of you want.

What does age have to do with it?  Some people met their first love in their early teens and become convinced that this is the only person in the world that matters. For some it works out really well and years later they are celebrating their Golden Jubilee.  But for most of us, our passionate youthful infatuations are not real love and we go on to meet our true soul mates. So if you are very young and have just split up with your first boyfriend, you should probably try dating some other boys first to see whether Mr Ex is in fact Mr Right as opposed to Mr Right now. If you have dated a load of men and this man is your ideal mate, then you should make every effort to get back together with him.

How long you were together will also play a part in whether you should make up or not.  A couple who have been together a couple of weeks do not know each other that well despite what they may think.  The sexual attraction between couples in the early stages of a romance can often blind you to the fact that your partner is not a candidate for a lifelong happy relationship.  Emotions run very high in the early days and you could find yourself splitting up on a weekly basis.  If this is the case, it is often a sign that there is no future for you at this point in time.

If you have been together for years, you may have split up because you have taken each other for granted.  Couples drift apart as life gets in the way. You often find that you spend more quality time with your neighbours and friends than you do with your significant other.  Illness, stress and financial worries can also play a part. If you have been together forever and have suddenly split up, then you should make every effort to sit down and discuss your relationship to see is it worth saving.  Sometimes, sadly it isn't but at least you will know that you have made every effort.

Why you broke up will partly determine whether you should get back together or not.  If you and you ex boyfriend have split because of a silly misunderstanding then you should try getting back together.  It is pointless letting your pride stop you from saying sorry if you acted childishly.  If on the other hand you have split up due to lies, deceit, fraud or an affair, the decision to get back together is a lot more difficult.

Ultimately it depends on what both of you want. You cannot force someone else to love you even if you do resort to emotional blackmail.  Saying I want to get back together with my ex boyfriend is easily achievable if he also wants this to happen.


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