Is everything in your life going the way that you want? Putting it another way, if you died five (5) years from today without accomplishing another thing between today and then, would you be satisfied?
How about the people hanging with you in your usual group?
Most likely, the answer would be a resounding, "No!"
Fast forward five (5) years. How many of these people, do you think, would be doing things differently then compared to the way they do them today?
I don't know that answer, but I bet you as the reader are making guesses pretty close to mine, and it's not many.
Here is the REAL question...Would YOU be one of these people?
Obviously, there ARE some people who break this mold. We see successful people. Several of them have nice positions at their work. Others might be leaders within our community. Sometimes, we see people on the news, and these people make us smile. Even many of the best sports players experience some form of success.
What are some things that these people have in common? What do they do differently than the common (and less successful) person?
I'm not going to discuss them ALL here, but I will focus on one major thing.
With whom do you spend most of your time? Are any of these people already where you want to be? Are any of them taking steps to get there, if they aren't already there?
Why is this important?
What types of things do you spend you time discussing with people? Do you talk about ways to improve yourself? Do you talk about the ways you are experimenting to learn something new?
If you're like most people, you're talking about the economy--and how it stinks. You're not talking about how you can benefit from the economic downturn. (For example, many things are cheaper--a lot cheaper.)
Are you spending a lot of time talking about sports? Yeah, they're fun. I know far too much about too many sports. I've noticed that games that seemed really important five (5) years ago don't seem to be nearly as important today. Yesterday's stories have been replaced by today's.
So what happened to that time that I spent discussing and thinking about that game years ago?j
That's right. It's gone. That time passed without me building anything for myself to make me better.
Do the people in your group make you feel better about yourself? If so, how? Do you get to laugh at other people's expense, or do they help you understand yourself better. Do they make you realize what a loser you are, or do they make you see good things about yourself that you had trouble seeing on your own?
I'm not suggesting that you ditch all of your friends. I'm just simply suggesting that you evaluate whether you want to include some people who make you feel good--for the right reasons.
Successful people are finding people to teach. They also find people to teach them. They also find peers to learn beside them. In fact, they are always learning, often from each other.
Parting thought provoking questions...
Do you think the president of that big company in town spends a lot of his nights drinking at the local corner bar? What type of people is probably in his or her group?
Who do you want to be in YOUR group?
