Feeling so broken hearted after a hard breakup can throw you off track…You start going through a rush of different feelings all at once…you feel loneliness, sadness, unbearable pain and fright. What you need to do is take a deep breath and think that the pain will slowly go away over time. This is not an easy journey to embark on; however it’s one that everyone goes through at one point or another in their life.
Thinking that you are not alone to be feeling the sadness and loneliness a break up can make you go through, may make you feel better. Psychologists compare healing yourself after an ended relationship, broken hearted mourning a lost loved one. Give yourself time to grieve; don’t let anyone rush you into anything. I don’t mean shutting your friends and family out, since they are there to help you. What you need is some time out, to think about what happened and to rediscover yourself, learns from the past and move on to a new and better you. However take things slowly, day by day and don’t expect to get over the pain in one day.
If you asked me how long it will take for you to heal, I wouldn’t be able to answer you. I guess it depends on a lot of variants. Some people can get over a past relationship in a few weeks while for some others, the pain lingers on. Concentrate only on living day by day, and without even yourself realizing, you will start feeling better.
This is no rocket science; it’s very simple. The way to heal your broken heart is by taking life day by day, always trying to think positive and not looking back.
No one expects you not to be in pain. You are not a superhero. It’s normal to feel sad and alone; like nobody around you can understand what you are going through. This is however only an illusion your mind is creating, because you are not the only person suffering from a broken heart and definitely not the last. Getting hurt is inevitable in a world where relationships are the order of the day.
After the pain and disappointment, you need to start thinking positive and understand and believe that you will survive this. It is not an easy thing to do especially if you had invested a lot into your relationship and in your partner and now you feel that you can’t live without him and move on. I believe it’s all in the state of mind, so you need to make peace with yourself and consciously accept that you have broken up and now need to move on alone. So many people have gone through this heartache and survived, are you any worse then them? NO!
Even though somewhat insignificant, understanding that you are not alone in this world going through this hard time of healing a broken heart, is a very important step towards recovery. Even though you feel alone in this situation, the reality is much different.
