Health, Fitness and Confidence
If you are trying to lose weight and have been doing so repeatedly for years and years, just yo-yoing from losing to gaining again just as fast, I have the answer!!
The problem is probably due to the fact that your goal of losing weight, living a healthier life style ,doing more exercise wasnot specific enoughorpowerful enoughto make your brain wake up and stop those old patterns of behaviour and replace them with something that is going to give you what you want.
If wespecifically knowthat we want to be a size 12, weigh 10 stone and be able to fit into that black dress, and also envisage the benefits of being all that. i.e. looking great, feeling full of energy, feeling proud that we are in charge and not the biscuit tin!! - this becomes incredibly powerful and attractive for our brains to want and to move towards.
We have to know what we want very specifically.” I want to be thinner, fitter, etc” does not work.
If you said “I want to be richer! And I gave you £1, technically you would be, but it would not make any long lasting changes in your life and I doubt that you would see any benefits of that money!
However, if you said “I want to earn £30,000/year, you have something very specific to aim at. To look for, to work towards. From that amount you will also see the need for a rigid plan that will help you on the road to earning your £30,000.
Can you see the difference?
Let’s try it with eating healthily and exercising………
If we think of this in terms of a “what?” and “why?” thing, the “what” is what do we want, vividly, in detail…
Try closing your eyes and seeing your desired “what” happening in front of you, as if you are a film star. What is going on?
Have a look around and see what you look like, what are the sounds around you? Can you hear laughter and all the admiring comments from everyone as they see how good you look?
What can you feel in your body, the pleasing fit of your clothes, rather than bursting out of them as usual! The joy of pleasurably exercising and the fun you have. Imagine the delicious food which nurtures and feeds your precious body, and how you enjoy the benefits of this food as you eat in a controlled and responsible way.
You are solely thinking of the great benefits of changing your life style, the “what” and how I will like it!
Next we need to really examine “Why?”mustwe change, maybe our eating habits mean that we are totally out of control and that our health is at risk in a big way ie.diabetes and a host of other problems due to over eating and under exercising.
We need to look in to the future, 5years, 10 years and vividly look for the consequences of the behaviour we imagine we are continuing to have. We really, really need to feel the painnowof behaving in this way!!!!
So many people go back to old habits after good intentions for this very reason-they have not looked down the road of gloom …….
If we own up to what we are leading to we get massive motivation to replace this old behaviour which leads to a very different place.
The old habits must be shoved out of the way with compelling new habits that lead us to happiness and where we wish to be.
For example, over eating and inactivity can be replaced with a passion for healthy and fantastic food and having exercise as part of your daily life.
This is a choice, which once you are aware that you have a choice becomes so attractive and desirable.
So, what is the happier route?
To stay stuck in a situation which makes you unhappy? Or to do something about it, with someone to support you and keep you on the path that you have now chosen?
ContactSuzanneto discuss what would make you really happy and to start this journey with a caring professional.
Suzanne is a Master coach who works with women with Families who are ready to find some new direction in their lives.
