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Marriage is supposed to be a sacred bond two people choose to share for the rest of their days on this planet.
Today's divorce rates are high and the average times one will marry in a lifetime is even higher. AboutDivorce.org states that when considering "the current divorce rate statistics, 50% of the marriages end in divorce." Statistics Canada also provides a useful table depicting the divorce trend for the early part of the 2000's. In the next paragraphs, discussed are some steps to take when time get rough on the homefront.
1. Communication
When any relationship hits a rocky patch the first step of action is to take a step back for a moment and evaluate or even discuss with your partner how communication may be lacking. Men and women need to remember, seldom does the opposite sex really understand the other. We are just simply wired differently and unless you spell it out for your partner, word for word, they may not be getting the message you are sending.
When a woman cries, she wants to believe that her man knows what she is crying about. When a man heads out fishing for his day off and your still asleep in bed, he isn't thinking that you may be wondering where he is when you wake up. He is more concerned with gathering up his things up without waking you. Leaving socks and wet towels on the floor just isn't that big of a deal in the world of man, he isn't meaning to leave stuff lying around everyone for someone else to pick up.
Talking about small issues that may be causing much larger rifts in your marriage can be such a quick and satisfying fix. If only more people could find it easier honestly communicate with one this person they vowed to stay with through good times and bad.
2. Quality Time
The second point to consider is how much quality time you are spending together, with and without your children, if applicable. Do you find time for the special outings that brought you together in the first place? Although spending quality time together with family and friends is always important, time together alone is of the utmost significance as well.
3. The Little Things
Are your spouse's little habits that make them uniquely who they are, driving you crazy? Step back for a moment and think about it because chances are these are the little things that make you love them the most. Do they know exactly how to press your button in right order to get you to snap? Sometimes, it is best to just walk away and let it go.
When the little things are getting you or your partner down, maybe a trip to a favorite destination spot or a B&B tucked away up on a mountain would help to spark the flame when times get tough on the home front. Sometimes a change of scenery is the best way to clear the cobwebs from any relationship that may be stuck in the struggle of letting the little stuff get the better of you.
4. Sex
For some the word is taboo. Is there an eerie distance between you and your partner through this marital speed bump? You may want to think about how long it has been since you have been romantically involved with each other? How often do you enjoy each other and does this happen on regular basis? These are all questions that a couple should consider when experiencing troubles. Simply changing it up under the sheets can sometimes brighten the darkest of skies.
5. Seek Counseling
When all else fails and there seems to be no solutions or answers for your marital issues, it may be necessary to seek professional counseling with a licensed marriage counselor. A visit to you family doctor can provide you with an up to date life of the best people to see in you area.
In conclusion, hopefully a resolution can be found between two friends and partners before a divorce is considered or executed. However, in some cases this just is not possible.
