All of us experience fear from time to time, across a range of different situations in our lives. However, we need to actually start off by taking the time to really sit down, and analyse what we are fearful or scared of.
I say this, because it is not always what we think at first, but rather what we are scared will happen as a result of doing what we think we are scared of.
Yes, this is a mouthful, but understand, I know what I am talking about, as I have overcome numerous fears in my life, and can wholeheartedly understand the symptoms of fear in different people.
Let me give you an example.
Whilst this may seem really funny for many people, for others who fall into the category of being shy, you will no doubt appreciate the full feelings of terror and fear when asking someone of the opposite sex out, particularly, if you are a teenager, or young adult.
Have you ever wondered what the real fear is? I can tell you that it is the fear of rejection. No one likes being rejected, but I fully understand that it is a terrifying experience if you are young and shy.
Anyway, to expand on this further, imagine pacing in front of the phone for an hour or two, then picking it up, starting to dial, and immediately putting it down again. You may even justify your actions by saying to yourself that you can't call now, as you may interrupt dinner, or perhaps, now they are watching their favourite TV soap program, and so on. Essentially, this may go on for several days, and then, you may compound this by writing your questions down, so you do not forget your lines. I know this sounds really ridiculous, but I also know that these are fears that people can go through, because I have been there as a teenager.
However, the good news with fear, is that to get over it, you simply have to do what you are scared of doing.
There are ways around this, and of approaching your fears, in a logical and stepped way, so that you are more likely to not only do what you are scared of, but more importantly, actually get over your handicap. I specifically call fear a handicap, as it can with hold you from enjoying life to the fullest, and that is a shame.
You need to analyse your fears, and genuinely ask yourself what consequences you are scared of. Only then, will you be more likely to get over your fear, by applying a rational worst-case outcome, and then planning on how to deal with it. This is one of only a series of options available to you.
In addition, you may even find that your achievements and potential are seriously limited by not getting out in the world and doing what you on one hand know you can do, but are scared to approach, for fear of failure. You need to ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen to you if you fail at what you want to do. I addition, many people who have succeeded in life, had many failures on their way to their respective successes.
