There is much use of the word ‘values’ in the personal development industry. It flies around as often as the word ‘coffee’. But on speaking to people who are just beginning their journey into self development, or others who are not qualified as coaches or NLP Practitioners, the word seems to be somewhat hollow. They nod and give a faint “mmm-hmm” at the mention of values, and then in secret they say to me, ‘Umm… exactly what do you mean when you ask me about my values?’
What we do, how we behave, and how we think is directed by our core values which have developed within us of their own accord throughout our lives, and are the strongest and deepest parts of our personality. We create our values based on our environment, our upbringing and our experiences. Wedecidewhat is most important to us based on what we see, hear and feel in our world.
When we become aware of our values and shape our lives to be aligned with them, we experience great fulfillment, happiness and energy towards each new day because we are tapping into the mechanics of what makes us tick, and using it to drive us forward.
An example of someone consciously living their values (knowing what’s important to them and designing their life around those points) is an athlete. We could assume that the values of an athlete would be health, success, achievement, and recognition and they live their values by training each day (health), competing (success & achievement) and winning (recognition). Knowing this person’s values we could assume that they would not be drawn towards a career as a truck driver or receptionist because well… they would be absolutely miserable.
Personally, to give you an idea of how I live my life now that I’m aware of my values, my business as a Life Coach taps into my core values of Growth, Connection, Health, Joy, and Contribution. My work with clients and myself is based on personal and professional growth, I’m connecting with people on a really deep level in my work and relationships, I live very healthily, building my business is fun and creative, and I do it all knowing that I’m contributing to the lives of others, the environment, and my future family security. My actions are aligned with my core values and it really does feel amazing.
So my question to you is do you know your values?
Once we know our values there’s so much we can do with this information. We can change the order of them; for example Contribution used to be my top value which meant that I put everyone else before my health. When I made the decision to lower contribution and bring health up in the order of my values, many things in my external world changed and I was actually able to contribute even more. Change the order to what suits you best to reach your goals and live your full potential, and it can power you forward in your life.
The following exercise will help you identify your core values.
For this exercise let yourself write fluidly any words that come to mind for the following 5 categories. You'll eventually get to a point where one word stands out and feels strong for you. This is one of your core values. It’s ideal to find 5 main words which represent your top values- one for each category. The question to ask yourself is; What’s important to you about…
LIFE, CAREER, RELATIONSHIPS, MONEY, SPIRITUALITY
We can also find out HOW we are currently living our values and how we could live them even more, creating more of that elusive happiness and fulfillment we all want.
So lets do an exercise to identify what percentage you feel you are currently living each value, and what you can implement into your life starting today to experience the true sense of fulfillment that comes from living your values.
Step 1.What percentage are you’re living your number 1 value right now… be honest
Step 2.What are you currently doing to live this value: (what in your life taps into this value?)
Step 3.What do you need to do to more of to really live this value: (what can you bring into your life or do more of?)
It may be worth doing this exercise now and then coming back to it in a few weeks time to notice what has changed and what areas you still need to work on. Whatever you do with it, I encourage you to find out what your values are, find out what’s most important to you in your life, and start pitting in place strategies to bring those things into your environment. Sometimes the smallest change in one or two areas of your life can create the most amazing transformation.
Live and love your life, and always strive to live it even more!
