Thanks to Facebook, after 25 years, I was reconnected with one of my dearest High School friends last week. As we enjoyed each others company over a 3 hour lunch, she asked me a question that took me back to a place that psychologically, I have avoided to revisit. She said "Anne, what made you decide to leave your career at the hospital and start your own business?" Truth be told, I left for countless reasons. If I was asked to pin down the deciding factor, it would be that I didn't like the person I had allowed myself to become. I couldn't stand to look at myself in the mirror every day, knowing I had permitted myself to get to such a point.
Along with the tremendous support of my family, (especially my Mom), and2 very special people who entered my lifeat those tumultuous times, I gained the courage to leave my job, and make the necessary changes, which commenced the amazing journey of taking me to the place I am today. I had people who believed in me…even when I didn't believe in myself.
"What you get by reaching your goals, is not nearly as important as the person you become by reaching them." ~ Zig Ziglar
But…this post is not about me…it's about you. It's about helping you determine if what you aspire for yourself and for your future, supersedes any obstacles you will encounter on your journey.
First you must ask yourself these 5 simple words..."What Is My Core Desire?"
- Is it to Retire at an early age?
- Maybe you want to see all that our beautiful World has to offer…
- Perhaps you're waiting for the day you can "Fire Your Boss."
- Is it that you never again, want to be revolted by the person looking back at you in the mirror every day?
Whatever your Core desire is, it will be your #1 reason to succeed. Your Core desire will be the reason you fly out of bed in the morning, not wanting to waste another minute of a brand new day. Your daily decisions will be based on your Core desire. Your Core desire will consume every part of who you are, and what you become.
I took many chances and sacrificed more things than I allow myself to admit. I traveled, or I didn't travel, I dated or I didn't date…based on my Core desire. I made decisions such as selling personal possessions in order to invest inMyself,with things such as self education, and books on personal growth. I discarded lifelong friendships whose only contribution to my life at that point, had been a daily dose of their negative energy. My Core desire dominated my life with a sense of urgency. My focus and energy became so intense, sadly... I also fumbled with, and eventually lost the most important person that had ever entered my life.
My Core desire won out over everything else...and made the difference between success and failure.
So if you have any doubts and are still wondering if you have what it takes to reach your Core desire, just ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice, or not to sacrifice, to change, or not to change those stable, cozy and comfortable aspects of your everyday life.
And if you need someone to believe in you, I believe in you...
There isn't any doubt, that each and every one of us possess a Core desire. The doubt lies in whether we are willing to change our lives and ourselves... to attain them.
